How can I explain Aspergers to my ignorant parents

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I literally can't take the on slot of verbal abuse anymore they have no idea that I have no friends and think I can just have friends If I put an effort into it. They many times deny it saying its a fake condition so annoying kids have an excuse to act like an as*hole. I try to explain the pain I go through every day but always yell and get mad at me and kick me out of the house because of that. I mean how can explain the pain i go through on a daily basis without them yelling at me.

Does the doctor who diagnosed you have any literature on it that you could give them to read? I'm sure there is plenty of stuff written by professionals to explain it to those who don't know anything about it.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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literature -simple dot point stuff plus heaps of talking and practical examples...
i use the phrase my behaviour is inappropriate because it impacts on others negatively thru.....

Good luck! I tried with my parents but not much success yet. They now simply admit I'm not normal and am "difficult". They didn't read the stuff I sent them as they don't read English that well. I do tell them it's not their fault so they don't feel I'm picking on them. My mom particularly doesn't bother to learn anything and just like to whine. She's the only 100% NT person in the family.

My in-laws however have read the books I sent them and pretty much accepted us. So if your parents are the type who like to read and are willing to understand different people then there's hope.

They keep nagging me about these traits I have, weird thing is that they took me for a diagnosis already and still they can't be bothered to read an article or two regarding the syndrome. I mean, isn't this strange? They know that they have an aspie kid!

I have no interest in telling my parents because not only am I an adult but it would be pointless. My mother would just smile and tell me there is nothing wrong with me and that I'm just shy and need to get over it and my father would be in denial since he has many of the same symptoms and would NEVER accept even a partial diagnosis. I did mention to my brother and he said "Oh yeah, that's you alright" so I'm not totally crazy.

Well, im an atypical autisc guy. i made a 1000 dolars freaking exam with many doctor and the diagnostic say i have symptons of autism that go to childhood to adult life.
i just cant conect to people, its very sad. i never could in my entire life sprak wih a woman cause i always imagine that a single conversation could lead to sex, and thats give me nervous. i dont have any friends, even on internet im very nervous cause when on a chat my mind is so slow that i could literaly spend 15 minutes looking at the chat window and nothing coming to my mind. im too sensitive but at the same time emotionless.
i explained that to my crazy mother and she does not acept cause the guys who made my exam writed that i have syntons of autism, and not typed like AUTISM.
the problem is she do t pay atention to things, and its a compulsive liar thats all the time invent things that are convenient to her.
i show her an article about how to deal with me.and she never try to pratic. all the time we discuss she curse me cause my father is old hes gonna die and she will abandon me. she dont even try to disduss about finding someone else to take care of me..
my parents both have some kind of mental illness and they do t thing straighforward or think about th consequences.
ahhhhhhhh... if i was with the right people i could grow... my mother is horrible, she refuses that i have austism and think that im just selfish, im normal, and that im gay cause i dont talk to woman.. nothing against gays but omg i want normal parents every single day is this bullying from my own parents.

i dont wish this situation even to my worst enemy, that just wrong...
ty for readinf me.

If they have no good will, and no willingness to engage with this in any meaningful way, then no amount of written information, however valid will be of much use. They are in wilful denial and apparently want to stay there, because that is a comfortable place for them which is in sync with their views of themselves, their family and life in general. You are supposed to sing from their songsheet, of course, as part of the chorus which they conduct.

Without goodwill little can ever be achieved. You could accept that they are too whatever to change or even consider your point of view. You have the choice to do that or disengage with them. That's where your power lies, not in trying to change their pigheaded resistance, which simply gives your power away to them.

"You can't teach pigs to tapdance: it will only exhaust you, and really annoy the pigs.."

Have a third party inform them, ideally in the form of a healthcare professional who specializes with autism or get them to watch a film on autism that describes what you go through. I have found both to be effective for at least one of my ignorant parents.