No interest in relationships at all

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I was in love, once, when I was 12 or 13. I'm actually female and bi, so it was a girl from my class. Well, we never got together though. After that, I found myself absolutely not being interested in anyone.

There are people I find attractive, though the amount is very low. I think I have very high and kind of unusual standards.
However, if you presented me with the woman/man of my dreams right now, I'd probably say "no thanks". I just feel like I haven't the slightest interest in love or relationships at the moment, and not in sex either.

Are there some of you who feel the same? Who absolutely don't want a relationship?

Um, fell in love once at 16 years old, well it was more of an obsession really. TBH I'm not sure what I would have done if she had said yes. I had no idea how to go about dating (and still don't ).

Nothing after that. I can appreciate beauty in both men and women but I don't really feel any sexual attraction. It's just more hassle than it's worth. I don't want a relationship. I'm quite happy living quietly on my own, playing with my computers and machines.

I wouldn't say I'm not interested in a relationship. It just seems like it'll be a hassle being in one. Yeah, there are pluses - someone to go to the movies & restaurants with, someone to go to concerts and museums with, and there are minuses - interruption in your special interests, dealing with someone who may not live up to your expectations, the horrible chance of infidelity, etc.

I'm learning now to go out to events by myself. I still have those two concert tickets from last year. Still, though, I think about getting into a relationship. Who knows? Maybe I'll put up an ad on OKCupid anyway and see what's doing.

You sound like an aromantic asexual. Welcome to the club! I think you'll like it here. We have cake.

Cake? I knew it was a good idea to register here!

Well I suspected I might be asexual... not entirely sure though

Are you happened to be on birth control pills?
I was like that when I was on them. I had zero sex drive. I couldn't even watch tv shows that had love scenes. It just seemed so stupid and ridiculous that people got so worked up about love and relationships. The pills also made me apathetic in all aspects. I couldn't look at fashion magazines because they were all about attracting the opposite sex. I couldn't care less. When I stopped taking them it went back to normal.

Or some antidepressants, they are sex killers too.
But I am also member of this club. Women? Sometimes I don't even bother to take a look. Whatfor? Relationship?! Fuuu I haven't seen woman interesting enough for all that trouble. Truly, what should I gain. Not much after all :/

I do take birth control pills, but it was the same before I did, so I don't think that's it.

I have been in only 2 relationships and wasn't in love with any of the guys I was with and didn't feel anything towards them. I haven't found love. I have been on birth control pills for awhile and I believe they have killed my libido. I have depression too so that could be a side effect to the pills.
I don't really have a sex drive and not into having sex. Relationships are full of dramas, problems. Yes there are advantages to being in a relationship like having a companion, soulmate or other half and being in the company of another person but they are complex. I do find men attractive in regards to appearance but having a sexual attraction to them and being in a relationship is something else.

I enjoy living alone and being single with my cat he is my best friend and the only man in my life

Sounds like you have unresolved issues (perhaps subconscious) from that love.

I do and I don't want one.

I've been in relationships before, 2 producing children. At the time I entered into those relationships I wanted to be in them, I wanted the whole deal.

I've been on my own with my kids for 3 years now and I have no real desire to enter an actual relationship.

This pretty much sums it up for me.

I want to have someone to do things with, but I don't want the hassle. Don't want to be cheated on, don't want the conflict and suffocation of commitment, don't want someone in my space.

I've had the opportunity a couple of times to enter into a relationship but I ran.
It's just not what I want.
I DO however have a keen sex drive.