Ever wonder how people see you?

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I noticed when looking at the profile pictures of those willing to show their actual faces... most people have a blank or downright sour look... that's gotta' be half our problem of approachability right there!

Your thoughts?

I think it's pretty unintentional. I'm not sure how often I do it, but I'm sure I do. I'm sure that can cause people to believe we're unapproachable. Probably a main reason why I have very few friends.

Hmm I definitely have the sombre look, I think it gives a more serious intent and the type of people I appeal towards tend to be similar. However I did have a bond with a girl that was light hearted and fun, she definitely brought out that side of me more. I have been told that I'm dark and robotic in the past, however I am working on being more expressive and light hearted.

I think it's good to have a range of photos on a profile that express different scenarios, maybe one doing an activity, maybe another travelling or one at a party. I think many people on spectrum struggle to convey their emotions through facial expressions but I think it can be learned with practice and concious effort.

>Implying my face is blank or sour looking

But seriously though I do have that issue . And it's not like I try, a lot of times I'm perfectly content but I just have kind of blank stare going on.

(I first want to say that in my profile pic, I was unaware I was being photographed, and I was trying not to fall off a hundred plus foot cliff... seriously... ^_^ but I thought it was a really good capture, as anything I smile/pose for looks absolutely stupid/terrible/unflattering in the extreme)

I believe you are correct, as I went through a period when, for some reason, people constantly said things like "why are you so mad?" or "you seem so depressed." (I'm not sure why, it's simply my face..)

It has stopped, but I haven't actually changed anything except my environment; these things were generally said to me at work in customer service jobs, but only when I wasn't doing anything other then look for things needing to be done (I was very good with customer service, for some reason.. maybe because it didn't matter, ultimately, what they thought, and these things were never said by my actual customers), and a random person would come up to me and offer an unsolicited opinion (which was aggravating, because explaining "my face is just relaxed, and thus shows no emotion, currently" generally doesn't go over well with NTs, I've found..)

I haven't figured out what sort of face they want a person to have when they are doing -literally- nothing..

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I think many of our "neutral" expressions may look sour because of lip downturn, etc... I just seem to have noticed it a lot in my short time here.

...and in your case, Xenu:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCKdtBWT0Bs[/youtube]

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People that aren't on the spectrum can make misjudgements as well and it seems in this case, they have. Guys might also see it as an opportunity for a nice subtle approach on you, in the sense that they may want to be seen as caring or empathetic as a means to get to know you.

I simply don't care about people and how they might see me -- no perception of it at all and not interested in. But if i had a choice i would rather look scary in order to be left alone and just not being approached.

I sort of assumed it was mockery or prying where they were not welcome :p It generally wasn't said in a way that I would consider "caring" or "supportive", more like "you are at work in a place people might potentially see you, you should have a sh*t-eating grin plastered on your face at all times because I said so" :p

What a scary question! I actually prefer not to know because every time I find out, it saddens me so. I mean, I know I come off as odd, but I prefer to stay in my own world inside my mind most of the times where I can pretend I am not as bad as the rest of the world sees me. It's not that I seclude myself in this world but rather that I keep myself unaware of the reactions and impressions of others towards me. It's part of why I avoid mirrors so that I don't have to be woken up to the reality of just how bad my appearance is.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vsD59uKVTxc[/youtube]

In that case, Blank Expression by The Specials must be the theme song for those with, wait for it, a blank expression on their face.

Ain't I a stinker?!

<--- Loves me some The Specials.

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People usually make fun of me when they take a picture, look at it and tell me I have a look on my face like I'm attending a funeral. When I tell them, that's how I always look, they say something akin to: "Yes, exactly!" I can't help it, and frankly, I don't want to. I can't smile, and one of the reasons I look tense is that I AM. Being around people makes me nervous. Without wanting to sound too pathetic: It realized it is useful for keeping people at a distance, which means I have less of a chance to make a fool of myself in front of other people.

Probably.

I know I have a very blank face, and combined with my eyes it gives a somewhat serious or intense expression as my normal expression. It's not intentional though.

If they bothered to speak to me for more than 2 seconds they they would realize most of the time I'm not serious at all.

Who cares what sheeple think ^_^

Oh, I know it makes me look unapproachable. I don't want to be approached, and even if I did, I have no interest in paying constant attention to whether or not my face is smiling or not. I'll put a smile on for job interviews and my students, though.

Yes i do wonder atleast once every 10 minutes. From what ive heard and overheard im aparently cute and handsome. Which is womanspeak for "im not going to throw up if i see him but im not planing on it either"