do you wish you ware more normal ?

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do you wish you ware more normal ?
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Not really.

Yes all the time. I look at normal people and try to figure out what makes them so successful.

I've been doing this ever since I can remember. Maybe it has something to do with me being undiagnosed and expected to conform when growing up.

If you mean "normal" as meaning Neurotypical, then oh hell yes.

Errrmmm, just let me think for a moment...
- Hypersensitivity to background noise - no thank you
- Getting 'stuck' of freezing up in conversations - no thank you
- Getting meltdowns - no thank you
- Being oblivious to non-verbal conversation and looking stupid as a result - no thank you
- Having the need to hyper-concentrate in order to get anything done ; or nothing gets done - no thank you
- Having your thoughts and concentration completely obliterated by minor interruptions
and struggle to get back to what I was doing before I was interrupted - no thank you

Many 'die-hard' / 'proud' aspies are proud because of their unique view of things, ability to analyze things, and like to be 'different'. That's fine but don't dare suggest that being neurotypical means being inferior. For those into science, I bet most of those people at the announcement of the Higgs Bison particle at the Cern/ Particle Physics accelerator , may be very intelligent bunch of professors, but I bet most of them are also neurotypical too.

A non-typical neurotypical. Yes that would be my 'holy grail'.

Agreed. I like the analogy, I'm very much into physics.

All else being equal, I've seen that most neurotypicals are able to beat an aspie any day by leveraging their relationships to get to the top.

My answer to this thread and many other threads like this before it, is NO.

How about you. Do you wish to be more normal?

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i wish i could be more normal when i have to be around people. other than that i dont mind too much

Sometimes I do as I think if I was more normal my life would of gone a lot different I would not be living ware I live now and world of not got into computers but most of the time I like being a little different as that what makes me.

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I used to feel that way but not anymore. I only feel that way about my anxiety and learning issues.

I've learnt that normal is often wading in shallow tides.
I wish I didn't have Tourettes, or OCD and the social restraints from Aspergers, but other than that, I'm pretty content with who I am, at the end of the day I refused medication because I didn't want to be somebody else.

Yes I wish I was normal.

Being an Aspie has given me a longer attention span then most and a logical mind I would like to keep these traits but be normal in every other way.

Normal life:
Never been bullied
Hetero
College, Career
Wife & Kids
House in the 'Burbs
Family outings and vacations
Social groups, etc.

Probably would be nice to have all those things. Probably too late now.

Yeah or atleast better. Living on disability pension isnt the most fun thing in life contrary to popular belief.

I wouldn mind being more normal.

People life me thats stuck with all the worst of the aspergers / autism tourette. life is just hell on earth quite literally.

No way. Two big reasons:

My unusual mental wiring has given me the gift of being an excellent writer. I value leaving something important behind much more than easy or fiscal success. If I can leave behind a book that aspies will read many years after my death, I will consider myself a success. I have little doubt in my ability to do that because of my unusual, analytic, language only brain.

Also, because of my aspergers, I picked up very little from my parents. My parents are kind of terrible people who have no follow through on anything they don't decide and no interest in seeing to their children being balanced or ready for life, especially the difficult one (who definitely doesn't have aspergers, despite how much they complain about my symptoms >_>). They don't deal with life problems in any real way. My mother is going to be a serious hoarder in the next few years. She is hoarding my stepfather out of her life. (Two chairs in their bedroom, his piled high with my mother's unworn clothing.) My stepfather is a milquetoast as*hole who is passively racist and sexist. Marrying my ornery southern woman mother is kind of his way of making up for his father dominating and controlling his mother her whole life. I could go on... to write a book about this. I can't imagine being more impressionable and less introverted while being raised by them. I could have been a morally terrible wreck of a person instead of just a kind of a mess. (It's kind of a house, but it's kind of falling apart. ~_^)

Nope.

Normal is empty calories.

They're holograms.


"There is of course nothing 'wrong' about
any given life form since 'wrong' only has
reference to conflicts with other life forms
— The point is these forms should not be
on the same planet." William Burroughs,
Nova Express.