Solvejg wrote:
I am overly romantic and I have to use all my willpower to not overwhelm my aspie boyfriend. If I had my way, I would be sending flowers to his work just to say i love him ect. I limit it to making sure I just tell him how much he means to me daily and buy him little gifts and leave him notes that express my love too.
He is very intoverted and shy and part of romance is realising the other person's personality and tailoring it to them. There is no point going overboard with someone that would hate it. Subtlety can make a person feel just as great as huge displays.
Basically this. In my case I avoid showering her with gifts because I don't want to be too clingy and overbearing, and also little things like a random note or a random phone call or small things that show her I was thinking about her have been really appreciated.
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