Women and aspie boyfriends...

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I've been a lonely heart for 22 years and counting. I have never smelled the scent of perfume on my clothes, I have never felt the warm embrace of a woman's hand upon my face, nor have I tasted the moisture of a woman's soft, smooth lips on my own lips. I have been rejected many times because of my autisticness, and it hurts to no end.
What should I do when I face rejection from the next woman who rejects me because of my autisticness? Do women even date men with Autism? That's a question that I have asked almost everyone in my life (my ma and pa, mental health professionals, pastors at churches, etc.), but has never been able to answer yes or no. Everytime I try to get a yes or no, I get an alternative answer. Has there ever been a time in human history, where there has been a certain individual with Autism/Asperger's, and they found somebody they truly loved, that they were married and started a family?

It happens! Not only are there some successful couples on here, but I was also quite happy with one special lady for 14 years... (Unfortunately, circumstances changed and she decided she wanted "something else"...) You can't change other people and sometimes life sucks.... hang in there and be part of the world around you- it CAN happen.

My father probably has Asperger's, and my mother has a lot of Asperger's symptoms too. They've been married for about twenty years now, and they've been together for 30-35 years now, since their early 20s. If the question is literally "are there people who are autistic and can get relationships", the answer is "absolutely, or this post hadn't existed."

If the question is taken a bit more figuratively, though, there are a lot of problems with autistic men finding a relationship - seemingly, we have a lot more problems than women.

There have been people in this forum that can answer that with a 'yes'. There are people that can make a relationship work, and there are some that can have a marriage and kids. I suspect my dad had it his whole life, and I can assure you that he made it work somehow. And yes, he was there too, but was sometimes hard to deal with. I am also an Aspie and have not managed to make anything work, but grew up with a lot of issues. You are indicating that you are 22 years old, why even complain about it yet?
I hope you make no complaints to women that you are trying to court about these kind of things. I hope you are showing a sense of confidence in who you are and a sense of self-esteem. If you have failed to do these things, then you have some work to do.

Yes, my fiance is Aspie and I am NT and I can't imagine being with anyone else.

Your post made me very sad. I've lived a while without friends (or girlfriends) and it wasn't very pleasant. It would be terrible to live like that for 22 years.

Yes! I dated an Aspie for 3 years (although I'm not sure if it counts since I'm one myself). He was involved in a lot of stuff with school so it just stopped working due to lack of time, but girls do like Aspies!!

Don't Give up on Love There is Someone out there for you.
I am an aspie and I am dating another aspie. we care for each other alot and he unlike all my exes dosn't need no "what is an aspie "talk. and we don't judge one another's feelings as being cold or uncaring. we are on the same wave length.

You just need to stick to it and find that woman who shares the same wavelength or wants to try to tune to yours. If it doesn't work just know this there are many fish in the sea there is bound to be one for you.

Girls do date aspies.. NT and AS girls date Aspies....
Or my brother wouldnt have had GF's and My ex definitely wouldnt have had ex's. and my best male friend, OMG he's a chick magnet... AN ASPIE MALE WHOSE A CHICK MAGNET O.O Hes had plenty of GF's. he's 22 i doubt he wants to settle down anytime soon though. anyways thats my "proof is in the pudding" moment xD (i shouldnt be using idioms).