What small things make life unbearable for you?

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Are there any things that most people can live with, that make life unbearable for you, that would make life unbearable if they were to happen?

i can think of more than a dozen......things that are either currently happening or IF they happened, i would have a severe meltdown or would have to be hospitalized. These are things i cannot live with under any circumstances. i don't know if this is part of Asperger's (sensory integration dysfunction) or whether i'm just a wimp:

-Home temperature more than 73 F at bedtime (i cannot sleep when it is too hot...insomnia drives me insane...)

-Any outdoor or indoor noise when trying to sleep (the only exception is a very generic white noise coming from the vents. Even fans keep me awake)

-Sinus issues/allergies (Snot in my nose drives me absolutely insane and i will do everything to get rid of it. i've had allergies before and they drove me mad)

-Being in the same room with anyone who shows even mild disapproval or dislike (have avoided many situations due to this fear)

The above is just a short list. i worry about my future for this reason.....there are so many things that make life unbearable, and i already suffer from severe chronic depression

No low-level lights, overhead lighting drives me up the wall.
If I were to live somewhere with regular plane flyovers, constant vacuum cleaner noise, noisy car engines etc.
Temperatures of above about 24c
Constant bright, sunny weather

I can't sleep if it's too hot, either. I can sleep at 75°F during the summer, but I know 80°F is too hot and probably 78 as well. During the winter I need it 72 or lower. My ideal is probably in the 50's!! I shudder to think how much electricity that would use during the summer...

And lots of noises do bother me at night, although not all. People talking (aggravated if it seems like they're having fun) and snoring are the worst. I can handle fans (in fact use them to drown out other noise), rain and even lightning.

The volume of many power tools (circular saw, lawn mower, etc.) is such that I have to wear earplugs when I use them, whereas most people don't.

For the longest time I could only drink water if it was closer to freezing than room temperature. Warm water was as bad as warm beer!

Any food that is supposed to be hot (or even just warm) I cannot eat if it's cold.

Daytime. People. Having to go out of the house in the daytime and interact with people, every day. Having people in my home. Telephones. Oh telephone, how I loathe thee! Why anyone would want a phone that goes with them everywhere, I cannot conceive (unless it was outgoing calls only, for emergencies). Bad enough to have to have one in your home.

Music. One song is fine but constant music, so aggravating.

I dislike interacting with normals and sub-normals.

Neighbors who can't keep their dang dogs quiet. I have dogs behind me, beside me on one side and in the houses diagonally behind me. If it wasn't for sleeping pills and my very loud fan I would never get any sleep at all.

-People talking and shuffling about right outside my bedroom door

-People comparing annoying behaviours of an adult with children (''oh he's like a little child'', ''oh a little toddler would do that, not a grown-up.....'')

-Someone starting to chuck criticisms at me because of the things I like aren't quite compatible with what I'm ''supposed to'' like

-When there's a radio or TV on in the room and people are chatting, I'm always afraid there will be some sort of distraction as soon as I decide to join in and then I get told to ssshhhh

-Being in a room with a dog that's likely to bark at any little noise outside that I (or anybody else) can't hear

-When I'm with someone who greets every stranger that passes in the street, it just gets annoying in the end, no need to speak to EVERYBODY unless you know them, do it when you're walking along on your own to feel more secure but not when you're with me or others!

-When the bus is crowded and it hasn't even reached the second town on the route yet (and it's got, like, 6 or 7 more towns to go) so I've got to stand up among crowds of other people

-When there's a toddler screaming in a restaurant and I'm trying to enjoy a nice meal that I paid a lot for

-When I've got to walk past a big crowd of loitering teenagers, especially if they look obnoxious and are probably thinking of something to shout out at me before I approach them

-When people keep staring at me in the street and I don't know why (most people can empathise with me on that one, though - especially when they know I don't do anything unusual to encourage such odd looks from people)

-When my mum or aunt starts a sneezing fit, because they don't just do 1 or 2 like most people do, they do, like, 20 or more, especiallt my aunt, and it just seems to make me feel unsettled

-When people are at my house late and I want to go to bed (I like to be in bed by 11pm)

mosquitoes

Nothing I would need to be hospitalized over. But a few things that bother me way more than they seem to bother other people.

Certain smells. And there are certain smells that I seem to be able to smell at lower "levels" than most people. So the smells will be flipping me out and no one else can smell it.

Silence. Sorry. I can't stand it. I actually feel anxious when it is silent.

Being tickled. There's nothing enjoyable about it.

The sound of someone else breathing when I am trying to fall asleep. Actually, the sound of other people breathing, period.

-depression
-stress
-low self-esteem
-public speaking
-certain social situations
-humiliation

Not being able to connect with people, even people I love. When I'm not with them, I want to be with them; when I'm with them I'm agitated and frustrated.

I'm very tempted to reply with 'people' - though people I can interact with on my terms or interact with when I feel like it are good. Life would certainly be much better if I could afford to not live with people.

i feel this way about TV....the constant chatter. One movie is fine but a blaring TV drives me nuts.

Boredom. More precisely, lack of intellectual stimulation. When I don't have anything interesting to think about, I go nuts--literally, like in the "mental illness" sense. I've done the craziest things to entertain myself... memorized random things, played mental games... I used to sing constantly while I washed dishes at one of the jobs I had; I know so many songs that I could sing all day and not repeat anything. One of the worst feelings in the world is the realization that I am out of books and have no way to get any more.

I wouldn't go crazy or get hospitalized for these things but they do bother me and they are:

-Neighbors that laugh out loud in the middle of the night, barking dogs, cats fighting, and grinding noises from cars that destroy the silence of the night.

-Kids crying. I can barely stand my 1 year-old sister when she cries, I have to cover my ears.

-When my mom or grandmother sneezes really loud, it's annoying.

-When I'm smoking a cigarette, I hate it when people have to walk by. I don't like people looking at me, and I certainly can't stand people who talk a lot about sex and treat it like a game when it's a serious thing between two soulmates

-People chewing loudly or smacking on their food.

-Chairs screeching, metals dropping to the floor.

- I can only eat breakfast foods for breakfast and dinner foods for dinner. Like I can't have pancakes fo dinner or soup for breakfast.

-the sound of kissing

-large crowds and loud people

-flashing lights

-going outside with out sunglasses

-being pressured to talk