What is it with college people?

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I was watching some student videos of my old college campus, and remember when I was there, and it seems the majority of undergrads (especially the girls) have this cutesy feely-good bubbly vibe, like they are all friends with gay guys. Its really nauseating. Like the go to class in pajamas vibe.

And the guys being outnumbered in the class, just seem kind of wimpy and soft-voiced. I am not saying I would be the definition of manliness, but I never would feel comfortable in that place, and it would show. Whereas they seem resigned. I don't see the struggle in them. Maybe they already went through their struggle and are just comfortable with themselves, but that still doesn't seem right.

There is just something sickening about this vibe. Can anybody relate to what I am talking about. Does this make sense?

If people were more friendly with a "real" vibe about them, then I would feel like a complete as*hole for rejecting their vibes, but all those bubbly feel-good attitudes just remind me of why I can't stand people sometimes.

Are the girls acting that way subconsciously in group behavior to ward off guys?

What I am describing, when I am around it, its a feeling inside of me, that makes me not want to be around those kind of people.

There going to class to get an education; not to look nice for you. I think complaining about wearing Pijama's to class is a bit shallow yourself.

When you say struggle, what do you mean? It's not like high school were people fight weekly.

What was your major? That impacts the kind of people you'll meet.

You didn't read what I wrote, I was trying to convey the overall vibe of the students that I remember. The "pajama" was trying to convey that, but it doesnt just mean that pajamas are stupid. I was trying to describe the vibe.

The closest thing I can think of that compares to this is when I did deliveries to warehouses and factories and dealt with the workers. Most workers were just about getting through the daily grind like myself. All business. Hand over the package. Sign this form.

Sometimes though I'd be at a warehouse with people joking around and almost goofing off. That by itself isn't bad, but it seemed like there was very disproportionate amounts of laughing in response to mildly amusing jokes or anecdotes. Someone mutters something followed by lots of loud laughing and high fives. I'm like what the hell.

I sort of wondered if they'd been breathing to many propane fumes from their forklifts.

I read what you wrote, that was what I got from it.

How do you expect them to act is another question?

I don't really understand lightening020. Do you think men should be forced to act manly ?
Do you think that being shy is in itself a bad thing ?
I'm quite puzzled.

I'm wondering if he's saying they don't have like ignorant monkeys like they do in high school jumping around disrupting class, talking out loud, fighting in the hallways, etc.

basically I was just saying: The overall vibe of students my age...I just don't get. Whatever makes them feel and act the way they do, it isn't in me, and its off-putting. There is something very annoying about it.

forget about the specifics of what I said. Theres vibes that other people create, and it makes me NOT want to fit in.

I think that, being old, I have a hidden advantage.

I don't feel alienated but I don't feel a need to fit in either...

People pretty much leave me alone, I leave them alone, and I get along fine on campus.

I'm really interested in your post. I'm a sociologist in grad school, and I've noticed that some people on the spectrum have a cool ability to look at social situations in their own culture with fresh eyes, as if they'd just gotten off the plane from the other side of the world.

I know exactly what you're talking about. The "college girl voice" for example, is part of this world, and guys carrying man purses. Everyone drinks fancy coffee and uses Facebook in class because they can't stand not talking to each other for an hour. Often, they can't shake this afterward and when they keep acting like this after they graduate they can't get a job in their field and end up being supported by their parents for a few years. They also tend to get fairly good grades, not because they deserve them, but because they complain so much that it bullies the professors into giving them Bs when they deserve Cs and As when they deserve Bs.

I'm not 100% sure what you are talking about, but I do notice something about college students. I didn't make any friends my first semester at college because I didn't really fit in. I felt like everyone was really phony and I really hated how so many students didn't care about their classes and only wanted to party while I was working my ass off. I only started making friends when I joined SDS, which seems to draw in the realest and most socially awkward students at my college.

I get so annoyed by people like this...not surprised that so many others are either. It was one of the reasons I was frustrated with university a few years ago...I couldn't stand being around such sheep and hated the fact that I was reduced to the same level as them by being in the same class.

It helps to try to disconnect yourself from people like this and silently remind yourself that real people still exist at your university...and maybe you don't see them. Sitting at the front of your classes also helps so they aren't in your way and annoying you.