being ugly

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kind of feels crappy. it's not like that's my biggest flaw and I know it shouldn't be so important to me but eh

I hate being a hideous monster

I understand what you mean. I'm really good at math but I'm 19 and never kissed. I'm supposed to workout but am too lazy.

I know the feeling and have been told that my looks are no good and undesirable by others. People keep telling me its whats on the inside that matters but all the superficial people do not prescribe to that theory.

The typical NT response would be to tell you that you are only as ugly as you lead yourself on to believe. The Aspie response from me in this case would be... You are only as ugly as you lead yourself on to believe. I am only saying that because I once believed it about myself and I no longer don't.

I'm bad at math and I work out regularly but that isn't going to change my ugly face.

@aspiemike, I can't just decide that what I know to be ugly is no longer ugly. I could believe I'm stunning but it would be self deception

Well... assuming you were truly ugly, which I don't know (but most people who say that usually aren't) I've seen ugly people, personally, who are able to be with a lot of women by personality alone, if that's your main concern, because I shouldn't assume it's a women problem.

In my experience, the women I've dated weren't initially attracted to my looks but rather they seemed genuinely interested in my personality. As a woman I can say looks might grab my attention but looks don't keep my attention for long.

Still, it just is horrible being so ugly I don't want to look at myself in the mirror. I keep a towel hung over my bathroom mirror

who needs superficial people, anyways?

A guy who hit on me all night on Saturday at my friend's concert got my number from a mutual friend and called me to explain that he was drunk and he hoped I didn't take it seriously and basically called me hideous. I didn't need to know that. Now I can't sleep and I have a dental appointment in six hours. I didn't sleep all weekend. I'm gonna fall asleep as soon as they gas me.

ugh. Lack of sleep is making me uglier looking to myself. I almost made a picture of my face my avatar here and then I just felt sick thinking about seeing my face if I look back over my posts.

i am positive you are not ugly as you say.

Maybe you are just feeling ugly, and not so bad really, idk. Anyway, at least some people could be a lot worse off. Imagine being good looking, but having some severe disability or no freedom.

If you don't like yourself, then change. Get plastic surgery, lose weight, gain muscle. Do whatever it is that is required to make you feel better.

I too doubt you are as bad as you say.

If you have obtained relationships with your personality, that's the best thing. Personality will win over looks in the long run. I would gladly be with a woman who's not the most fortunate looking, so as long as her personality is one I really enjoy.

But I think you may be hard on yourself, I was that way and some days I can still be that way. Apparently a lot of women think I'm cute and sexy. Some have said the complete opposite, but who cares about them. I used to, but not anymore. I know there are going to be women who think I look good and women who think I'm gross, it's whatever.

I don't know how to make a case for myself being ugly, I'm exactly what I think of as hideous and I've had plenty of people agree to that. One of my friends who is vulgar and crass but who loves me has made the joke repeatedly that I'm the only ugly chick he would bang.(we say much worse things than that when around one another, it's just how we get on) I don't think a friend has any reason to lie to me about me looking homely.

Example: I don't know why I made the MS Paint clown nose
http://tinypic.com/r/yp9w9/6

I don't even know what plastic surgery could possibly fix the combination of flaws that make my reflection unbearable. I'm completely freaked out to post that, all of two or three people on WP know what I look like.

It's just so screwed up that I'm female and I feel like it's been drilled into my head my whole life that the best thing I could ever be is beautiful and I'll never be that, the thing I'm supposed to be.

It's not the end of the world but it eats me up sometimes.

putting aside the fact that you are beautiful and not hideous, you have more important attributes like intelligence, drive, warmth, understanding, sensitivity, and insight.

This pic clearly proves you are not ugly.. You are fine, stop being hard on yourself and letting other people get to you. Close friends can say mean things to your face, especially some guys, they say things that they may or may not mean.

It seems like a lot of people try to nit pick at every little thing they can about their looks, when it's really not a big deal. My advice, don't worry about your looks so much you are good to go. Focus on building more personality that's the most beautiful thing. One thing that's a big turn off for a lot of people is low self esteem like thinking you are ugly, especially when you are not.