Would you describe your life as happy or sad?

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Obviously there is a much greater spectrum of emotions than just happy or sad but I want to simplify things a bit. Let's just pretend, for the purposes of this poll, that your subjective experience of your life can only be described as either happy or sad.

And obviously to make this relevant to wrongplanet, would you describe your life as happy or sad in relation to your difficulties with social interactions, relationships and friendships etc.

My answer is "no". At least if that's an exclusive or. Really, I couldn't choose: they seem equal.

Well its certainly not very happy.

More sad than happy. Frustrating would probably be a better word for it since it feels like there is a glass wall between me and the rest of the world. People no longer abuse me much (I won't stand for it anymore) and I can get along with others really well in most situations. However, I am never part of the group and always feel like the outsider. Part of this might be that I have gone back to my religious roots and no longer drink or smoke pot but then again even when I did these things I still wasn't accepted. I sometimes question how much of my social difficulty is due to how I live and how much of it is due to my probable Asperger's. The best I can come up with is that my strict morals gave me a reason why I was alone that kept me from discovering the deeper problems that exist that I now think to be Asperger's.

Mostly happy. I'm too stubborn to be sad.

Happy. I am happy with what I have.

This is how I feel. If I start feeling sad or anxious about something, I just keep telling myself to cut it out (Not necessarily in the "I need to be strong and get through this" kind of way. I just tell myself there's nothing I can do about the situation, and that I need to get my mind off of whatever it is that's stressing me out and that maybe I need to stop giving a crap about it all together, and just focus on the here and now, since if something causes so much stress and sadness than it is not worth thinking or caring about at all ( or until the day it needs to be dealt with, depending on the cause.) That usually does the trick. Once the higher areas of the brain have decided to stop brooding over something ,the subconscious which generates those emotions of sadness and frustration will soon follow.

mostly indifferent should be an option. my default emotional state is between happy and sad.

I experience life as kind of bittersweet. I can get prolonged dark mood spells, and after that, I'll be happy again for a while.

I would say sad. I broke down in the doctors last week, literally crying out, ''why am I the one who has to be like this?! Why me? I don't like being this way!!'' And it just makes me so sad that I desire for social interaction and friendships, yet at the same time I struggle with it and feel like a failure.

This is exactly how I feel. I equate it to an analogy I've been thinking about. "If I hadn't seen such riches, I could live with being poor".

Like it's such a horrible feeling. Watching the world around you and all the people in it easily enjoying themselves and being happy with their social interaction. And you're just kind of standing there watching them, longing to be a part of it but never being able to.

For me it's like seeing a whole alien world of splendour and joy laid out before me, but never being quite able to reach it. It's such a horrible situation to be in.

Autism is who I am, I don't feel sad about my life. There are things *in* life that make me happy or sad, though.

Yes, this is exactly what I mean. If I didn't have so many NT cousins all around me who stereotypically have to be all social and base their whole life around one thing: socialising at bars at week-ends, I probably wouldn't feel that bothered about who I am. Like you said, if I was poor and was surrounded by poor people, I wouldn't feel as poor and would be happier. If I was poor and was surrounded by rich people, I would feel even more poorer than what I am.
It's like, with all my cousins, there's no shades of grey. They all seem to be extroverted party animals (even the introverted ones have magically turned into extroverts now), and I have 14 cousins and only 3 of them are under 18 but still have loads of mates and so will be into drinking and dancing when they're old enough, and not one of them is introverted or suffer with any condition that makes life harder for them to socialise, even if it isn't AS. I would feel a lot happier if there was a cousin or two who perhaps had Mental Retardation or Down's Syndrome or even ADHD or something like that. But nothing - all perfect examples of NTs, and here's me, the only Aspie. It's actually quite phemomenal really, in a negative way.

Mostly sad, but a lot of that has been out of my control, so I work at not letting it get to me and going with the flow, realizing that life isn't either all happy or all sad, but a mixture, and some of our personal happiness has to do with attitude and what we focus on.

I also have major depression, as a result of being sad most my life.

Both... it's like that honestly.