Do you socialize better 1 on 1 or in groups of people

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I am much better 1 on 1 most of the time. I find that I am able to focus better.

There are rare occasions where it doesn't always make a big difference though. Such as being in a group of really close friends, just hanging out.

When it's me, just one or two people I know, and some folks I don't know it can be pretty difficult to socialize well.

I am also better one on one but if I know people in the group well enough a small group is ok but I am more comfortable talking on line at first then meeting one on one.

1 on 1.

If I must talk, then one on one is best.

I prefer one on one too. It's easier to concentrate but also easier not to get lost in the background.

When there are 2 other people, 3 including me. There's no awkward silence then. Happens to me a lot ><

In general I prefer one on one interaction... but it also depends on who the company is. If it's solely people I get along with really well, I can handle a group of four, five people.

It gets difficult when, beside someone I like, there's someone I either don't know very well, or just don;t get along with.

Usually do okay either 1 on 1, or in groups of more than 4 people. I don't manage attention well in a group of 3 or 4 persons, and I get noticed [1].

[1] I think...

I prefer one on one most of the time, but it kinda depends on who that other person it. Some people I get OK-ish along with, and in those cases one on one is the best. But for those I don't get along with that well, I find it better to have several people around so that I don't have to say that much.

I am better with one to one. I can have a normal conversation like any NT can, without even appearing socially awkward, and a lot of people even said that I am good to talk to (one of the biggest compliments an Aspie can receive). But in groups, I tend to not speak at all (unless I'm with close family or close friends that I have known for a long time). But I think I am also put off speaking up in group conversations because at my old volunteer job I used to get funny looks whenever I spoke up in a group conversation, then one day somebody actually said, ''I wasn't speaking to you!'', then lectured me afterwards about my quirk. I think from that day onwards I have been feeling a little less confident in myself and now afraid to speak up again, since apparently I don't seem to know the difference between joining in and butting in. But, because I see other people butting in other people's conversations a lot, I didn't think there was anything wrong with it. I've even seen people do worse than me.

1-1 for me

1-1 unless its a small group of like minded people

I find it better with 1 on 1. I can't cope with a large group of people.

One on one. Second best would be a massive group of strangers. Intimate groups are probably the worst, apart from my immediate family. A few people have said that they are okay in small groups of close friends, but I have never had a group of close friends so I don't know what that is like. In a group of not-quite-so-close-friends, that is probably the worst scenario for me. At least with strangers I can try to get to know them - with acquaintances the conversation is supposed to be in that middle ground between small talk and deep talk, and I don't know how to do it.

1 on 1 definitely tends to be a lot easier.

Amongst close friends, a small groups works as well but I find that I tend to get lost in those conversations - I can never seem to really get a word in and end up feeling like a spectator to the conversation