Are you always in the way of someone?

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I can't stay in one place without someone going "excuse me " or " pardon me." I sometimes don't know how buisy a place is or I think none is going to walk over here and sometimes I just get in the way again.

One situation was in High School where I was standing by a pillar and a girl came up to me and said "Excuse me" since she needed to go to her locker so I moved. I then moved to the lockers where I thought I was out of the way andd then she came up to me again and said "I need to get to my locker." I mean what a coincidence!
Who here has had an experiance like this?

Yes I often get in the way and others get in my way, but maybe its only subjective.
I often do 'same-stepping' - when you are walking towards someone and you both try to get out of each other's way but end up choosing the same path

All the time. Back when I was in High School, it never really bothered me so I never really noticed, but now it does and I hate it.
It's really annoying when you're standing in a small shop with narrow aisles, with those basket things in the middle of each aisle which makes them smaller, and you're trying to concentrate on choosing something off the shelf and some woman steps right next to you, stares at you, mutters, ''excuse me!'' and has to squeeze past you - leaving you wondering why the hell she couldn't have just gone around the stupid basket things that take up the whole aisle instead of trying to squeeze right past you! Just typical! Men on the other hand don't normally do this - they find another way round, the only time they don't is if there's loads of people blocking every space and so they decide to get past your side. But even then they say ''excuse me'' in a way that doesn't make you feel like you're more in the way than you really are.

Also don't you just hate it when you're standing in a middle of a shop next to a friend/relative who is taking a long time and you suddenly get lost in your own thoughts, then suddenly someone creeps up from behind you, puts both her hands really gently on your ribs and whispers, ''excuse me, please, can I get by?'' and they have made you jump out of your skin because you was so lost in your own thoughts? I then feel embarrassed because people probably go, ''oh I want to get over there but there's a great big dozy girl standing right in my way!''

Also (sorry to keep on) I hate it when you get in the way in the most unlikely places. Last year I was sitting at a bus stop, and a man in a workers jacket came upto me and said, ''excuse me, can I just open this advertisement board from behind you a minute?'' and I was annoyed. Of all the times, of all the people, of all the places, it had to be me sitting in this bus stop at that very time!

Like I always say - if I went to a big field out of the way of everyone, a helicopter would probably want to land exactly where I'm standing!

Over the years computing peoples vectors has become a normal part of people interactions. In small areas with low numbers of people it isnt too bad but I find myself avoiding really crowded places. Too much data to take in. Then I usually try to get my back against a wall so I can recalibrate.

I've had plenty of awkward moments where I've ended up "dancing" with another person because of same-stepping. In the end I usually just step to the side and freeze, allowing them to walk by.

I stand in the way of human progress.

I do a lot of that...
I can't name one specific time, but it's definitely happened.

I have the opposite problem. People are always getting in my way.
Apparently it's normal to

- Walk slowly with your friends, 5 abreast.

- Stop to have a conversation RIGHT IN A FRICKING DOORWAY.

- Occasionally walk diagonally on a footpath that is going straight ahead, making it impossible for people to get past you.

- In the supermarket, place your trolley across the aisle and have a chat with your friend.

- Stop. For no reason. Right at the top/bottom of an escalator. Just as someone is trying to disembark.

This occurs quite often as does the awkward situation when you step out of someone's way and they mirror your movement rather than proceed.

I don't always blame myself for being in the way. I just think some women are rude and like to use me as a target because I ''don't matter''. Today I got in the way when I wasn't even in the way. I had just finished my hour session on the computer in the library, and I was logging off and getting up to put my coat on, then some snotty woman was standing almost right on my feet and slumped her handbag right next to me, pushing my arm out of the way (the arm with the big bruise on, that did hurt), and when I gave her a ''do you mind?'' look she just muttered, ''excuse me!'' and grabbed the chair, almost tripping me over. I nearly said, ''all right, all right, I'm moving as fast as I can!'' There was no need for her to behave like that because to have a computer in the library you have to book one, so as soon as my session is up nobody can access the computer unless you have booked in, so it wasn't as though she was trying to get on it before anyone else anyway. Also I ended my session 10 minutes before my time was up, and so she wouldn't have been able to get logged on before my whole hour was up anyway. She was just being rude. f*****g c**t - I hope somebody pushes her out of their way and see how she likes it.

See, this is what people do to me. I can name a few times where I have got laughed at, stared at, shoved out of the way, and all those other things that say I am targeted.

Sure seems that way...just the other day I was standing in a parking spot (there were lots open) with my back to the road, and a car HONKED at me (like 3 feet away from me!! !) and than the driver and his wife got out and yelled at me for standing where they wanted to park. They were so rude that I actually yelled back (out of character for me) and told them that if I had known they were there I would have obviously moved. In retrospect, I wish I had one of those "this person has AS" cards on me haha, that would have made them feel like real idiots (which they were).

Women in their 60s seem worse with being rude than any other age and gender group. Only generalizing here, I know some lovely women in their 60s, but it seems that whenever I have been pushed out of the way or other rude behaviour, it's mostly been from women in their 60s, around that sort of age. I've had less teenagers acting like that towards me. What is up with women around 60-70?! !!