Wrestling with Asperger's.

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I've been wrestling since I was sophomore. But I've only won once against a mentally ret*d boy. (I'm not against these kind of people, but a regular boy with his strength would have beat me easy). I work my ass off as much as anybody (and sometimes more than others) and its very upsetting when I still lose, or can't do the moves the freshmen can already do, or can't do the stuff as fast as everyone else, or don't even know what we are supposed to be doing. I believe this may have added to my depression I had during the last winter and spring months.
I love how close we teammates gets and the feeling one gets after working out hard (which we can't get to without a coach making us).
I didn't know I had Asperger's until this summer. Its nice to know that its not my fault I'm not able to wrestle any good. At the same time it saddens me to know I wont magically become a good wrestler this year just cause I'm a senior.

I don't believe it is healthy for me to spend 6 days a week on something I can't do well in. Especially when I can spend that time working on the hard classes I am going to be taking. And I struggled with my chemistry and math class last year. (I'm going to be taking two year long science classes and no math.)
The problem is I have to tell the coach why suddenly I am uninterested in wrestling this coming year. I want to be the manager if I can.

Any advice?
Sorry for the long message.

Sorry you haven't had very much luck with wrestling If you explain that you need more time to focus on your classes, I think your coach will understand. Hopefully you can become a manager, then, so you can still be, in a way, involved with your team, and team mates. Good luck.

He said he was going to be a senior.

A big part of wrestling is just mental, do you want to win? If you want to win more than the other person and have the techniques down then you should be able to. If you doubt yourself then that is the problem.

A lot of the really good wrestlers have been wrestling for years, like 8 years before highschool. All of the really good wrestlers in my highschool had started much earlier.

It's not for everyone, but you can try playing rugby. I know I enjoy it.

I hated wrestling in thought, I hated boxing and all other forms in thought...I just wanted to be a Ninja, GymKata-syle!

Eventually, I picked up boxing, wrestling, Muy-Thai, Shooto, Brazillian Jiu-Jitsu and even competed in amateur and a couple of Pro NHB fights before finally getting married and settling down a bit...

I did this from my senior year and on...as an Aspie, if I don't have a deep desired interest in it..I learn little, but if I have the passion for something, I learn it well.
You have to want it, be hungry for it and chase after it, not including the endless hours of practice-practice-practice.

Yeah, I was an awkward fish in wrestling my first few weeks getting pinned by people 50 lbs lighter than I was but then my Aspie'brain kicked into overdrive and I started learning quicker, faster and picking up pace! I embraced technique over speed and strength and I won a lot of 1st place varsity tournaments in my weight class and qualified for state regional wresting, not bad for a 1st year wrestler as a senior in High School eh!?

What do you hunger for?

I just have to ask: I thought aspies had sensory issues, Kind of like Bill Maher said once: "Whenever they had wresting in gym class I always tried to get a note because I did not like to Touch Other Men". Well how can any of you stand to touch other men?

Death by Monkeys your opponents are really going to try to beat you especially if they are guys - Can you imagine being a guy coming into school the next day after you have been defeated by a girl?

I've been in and out of martial arts for around 21 years. From Taekwondo, Karate, Kali, Kickboxing, Boxing, Aikido, MMA, Wrestling, and Brazilian Jiu-jitsu. Aikido and BJJ seemed to be the only ones I could do well at first because I could "flow". It took me around three years of boxing before I finally was able to grasp the basic concepts. I think my first win was on my 5th match. Honestly to me, it's really not about winning. Of course winning feels rather good, and a loss usually brings me to a prolonged period of depression, but when I really look at it martial arts to me is about the journey, not the destination. Rather than the opportunity to use my training, it's the opportunity to train that makes me happy. Don't be discouraged. I've picked myself up from multiple knockouts and looked at my bloody, battered face in the mirror countless times thinking "maybe this isn't for me". But there always seems to be something missing from my life when I'm not training. That's why I keep coming back.