What Men With Asperger Syndrome Want to Know About Women

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HazatB
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23 Aug 2012, 5:12 pm

What Men With Asperger Syndrome Want to Know About Women, Dating and Relationships

Just saw this book and interested in buying it because I have absolutely nothing to say to women when the opportunity arises. All I can get out is hello. I don't know how to fully process if she interested and if she his I do not know how to initiate conversation and when to ask for number/date. I was wondering if anyone else knows anything about this book. the author is Maxine Aston.



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23 Aug 2012, 8:17 pm

I am familiar with another book from her. It's very well-written with a lot of valid points. (Aspergers in Love). Super good. I especially like her qualitative information that she uses; a lot of examples from people she sees.

Anyway, from what I've read, I don't recall her saying much about how to initiate conversation, but rather how to maintain proper communication while in a relationship. I remember a lot of the examples explaining how women married to men who have aspergers are frustrated with them taking things literally, or their need for ritual. Mainly, the women said due to the man taking things literally, fights would occur.

I realized I'm not helping you at all, but what I've been meaning to say is that women were relieved to find out what is "wrong" with their husband and how it explains his behavior. It makes me wonder if the women would have married the men with Aspergers if they knew he had it. They still married them, so maybe wait a while before you say what you all have. See if it bothers the other person, and if they brings it up first, then explain to them.

I think-book aside- it would be smart to practice small talk with someone. Talk about anything from the weather to a popular sports team at the moment.

I think that's the first step: find equal ground between you and someone else.


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29 Aug 2012, 12:51 pm

HazatB wrote:
What Men With Asperger Syndrome Want to Know About Women, Dating and Relationships



Do women with Aspergers really have a C... a .. c.. a c........


a conscience?


So glad I joined this site. It has given me oh so much information.

I really don't know how I would have coped in the real world. Apart from being confused.



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29 Aug 2012, 4:42 pm

young_god wrote:
HazatB wrote:
What Men With Asperger Syndrome Want to Know About Women, Dating and Relationships



Do women with Aspergers really have a C... a .. c.. a c........


a conscience?


So glad I joined this site. It has given me oh so much information.

I really don't know how I would have coped in the real world. Apart from being confused.
i dont understand your entire post?


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29 Aug 2012, 5:24 pm

I recently purchased this book. It's really great and Maxine Aston is a really knowledgable author. All her books that I have read are well written and have been extremely helpful. The book has a lot of questions in it that people with Asperger's have asked her. The questions start from dating, relationships, marriage and when the couple want to have children. I think this is a really good book to give the person with Asperger's some answers as to why Neurotypicals think like they do. I think if you're interested, this book will help a lot in the aspect of dating and relationships.