For people who have As, do you..."

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have a person where you can act and be "yourself" with? I know some people have trouble since they might come off asrude to most people or strange and their parents are not someone they can really be "cool" with. Like someone there who can chat with you and not mind some of the weird or funny things you might say because they accept you anyway?

I'm on the border between AS and ADHD/NT and I am usually myself around most people I know well. Then again, not too many people want me around outside a small group of about 4 people I know who can deal with me. Usually they are people who are intelligent and enjoy intellectually stimulating conversations and respect me for my intellect despite my rather rigid set of rules for living life. I don't necessarily agree with all of them but we respect each other.

I have a few friends, most of them are AS as well. It's just ... a great relief to know that I can forget abou eye contacts and other NT social rituals, because we both know it's not important. To me it's refreshing that I can talk about anything withouth explaining of every second detail, it's pleasant that I can use what I call "vertical expressions" - using of semantic values of words and ignoring their literal meanings, which is a much more exact sometimes. It's nice that I'm just talking about things I think of withouth care if my counterpart is nervous or impatient because of level of my intelligence so I have't to feel guiltily just because the counterpart is not as smart or is smarter than me. It's enjoyable that I can say "Listen this song, I'm listening it for five days and it's more powerfull every next listening." - I know that the counterpart will not ask "Whaaad!? Five dayz one f***ing song, you're mad in'y?", which I would take as a insult, I know that the counterpart will listen it and says "It's great" or "It says nothing to me" and I know whatever he/she'll say it'll be that he/she thinks.

Some of them I meet personally, some by mail, because not every AS is able to exist out of thoroughly finetuned and guarded home environment, but who cares? I am not alone! But not all of them are ND, there ale enlightened NT's and I love them, because we can share what we find valuable on the other and we both are able to enrich each other ...

Yes exactly, that's what a lot of NTs isn't able to accept: you haven't to agree, all you have to is respect ... why is it so difficult to them to accept that somebody other have different opinion in some topic and it still doesn't mean that they have to start to fight or argue or break up or what? It's a big secret to me.

Yes, I do. There are some people who I feel comfortable in acting a bit ''silly'', and something in me tells me that they won't judge me. And then there are others who I don't get on with so well, and feel a bit nervous round them and feel I can't relax and so I talk in monotone and feel afraid to raise my voice at them and cause conflict.

I think everybody has at least one person who they're afraid to be themselves in front of, though. There are a few people who my mum speaks really posh in front of, and the rest of people she knows she feels more relaxed in front of and acts herself.

I feel perfectly comfortable in company with a few people who I have known a long time and who are more socially independent than the average NT. I wouldnt be surprised if they all were diagnosed on the Autism spectrum.

Most of my coworkers understand me now so I'm pretty much able to feel comfortable but as a general rule, only around children and seniors do I feel comfortable being myself: children because they are open minded and non judgmental and seniors because they have certainly experienced more than one Aspie in their lives!

No, even my sister can't stand me when i am myself and thus expects me to fake. Whenever i broach a topic she doesn't like, she simply ignores it and starts another one.

I can be myself with my husband. He has some AS traits, although maybe not at a clinical level. I am also close to my sister and mom. Both of them show possible AS traits, too. Maybe that helps!

I still find it hard to be "myself" around anyone. There's one friend I feel most comfortable and relaxed around. And even around her, I feel like I'm still kinda pretending to be "normal".

"Myself" is not "cool", and I don't mind that. I am myself around my parents, sometimes.

I am only comfortable being 'myself' online. Although, I am myself offline, but these days I rarely interact with anyone face to face.

When I was in college, professors would often be confused about my questions. I'm not sure if it was because I worded them in a strange way or if there was a language barrier (since many of them were Asian).

I asked one professor (from China -- very good teacher but hard to ask him a question because he never understood the root of my inquiry) -- I asked him how their scientists in China named new discoveries or named anything scientific. Since our (English) scientific names are usually based in Latin, I was wondering what their scientific naming was rooted in. He didn't understand my question. I had to just say 'nevermind', which I did many times for many questions until I just stopped asking about anything.

I have someone who I felt I could open up a bit more, but I have no one who I feel I can say anything to. I also left the school where that person was; an extremely hard decision. But the knowledge that there is someone out there who cares is what gets me through the next day.

Yeah I'm lucky enough to have 2 people who I can completely be myself around

I've made sure that my handful of friends - which includes people both online and in real life - is only comprised of people who are very patient and accepting of others.