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I just found out this year that i probably have asperger's. Actually a long story behind that but i will spare you the details. Long story short, i met a friend who has asperger's. He saw a lot of the same traits in me and pointed me towards the condition. I was in therapy at the time for depression, but when i brought the possibility up to my therapist, it was a flat no that i do not have it, no discussion whatsoever. The same happened when i went to an OT. The guy took one look at me and told me that i don't "look" like i have it, that i had good eye contact, he also did not bother to hear what i had to say, he didn't know me from anyone and only talked to me for 5 min. So for a long time I went on with the same stuggles i've always had, i believed the professionals bc they are supposed to be right. Several months later my friend brought it up to me again after i complained about not knowing what i am supposed to do in paticular social situations. He knows me pretty well and said, i don't care what they told you, there's no way u that don't have it. So i did more research and I identify a lot with the symptoms and with the people on this site. So i am hoping that i can make a few friends here and learn more about myself by seeing myself in others. Also hoping to meet some other girls, as i've only heard what it is like for boys with the condition. Sorry, that was still kinda long, i don't usually know when to quit typing lol. Seems i have so much to say and talk about that i haven't had a place to do so before.

Hi jnet and welcome to WP.
By the sound of it,you'll probably learn more from this site than you have from the
'professionals' you've seen so far. If another therapist says you don't look like you have
AS I would just reply 'Well,you don't look like you're a therapist ! '

lol thanks

Hi jnet, we hope you enjoy your time at our comfortable part of cyberspace.

Hi!

Welcome to Wrongplanet!

I think you'll fit in with us very well!

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I've been diagnosed with AS, and I don't look like I have it (apparently I'm pretty good-looking! ).

It's kinda like being a Tolkein fan unhappy with the way a Balrog turned out in the movie. They're at the bridge, and the fan is in the place of Gandalf. The Balrog then makes his stand and...

"You know, I don't think you're a Balrog." The fan says, "Why? Because I don't think you look like one."

And then the Balrog smites him with flaming glory.

Welcome to WP!

Tim

jnet,

So nice to hear your story because it sounds similar to mine. I have been plagued with what seems to be depression and anxiety since I was an adolescent and it's continued into adulthood. This has resulted in seeking out therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, and even a neuropsychologist. The latest was the neuropsychologist, and after hearing my history and meeting with my husband (a ten year relationship as of October this year), she informally concluded that I do meet the requirements from the DSM-IV for AS. I am high-functioning and know what you mean when some professionals dismiss your suspicions beacause you look normal, can give good eye contact, etc. In my opinion I think we, (meaning people in our category) have learned how to adapt, sometimes scarcely making it within society. For me, it feels like I barely make it by sometimes in the "working world" and because of that I usually give up (quit my job) running in the "rat race." Sometimes it amazes me how smart we can be, but the social reprecussions of AS usually dibilitate our potential in the workforce. Welcome jnet, I just joined this site today as well.

hehe I love this fish smiley! I keep aquariums at home and love fish in general.

My depression has always stemmed from not being able to figure out people no matter how hard I tried. I always felt there was a huge wall between me and everyone else, either that or I was speaking an entirely different language. I was missing something eveyone else I knew seemed to have and I couldn't figure out what it was. I am not in the working world yet, I have avoided it at all cost, but am a college student, and I barely scrape by there not grade wise, but emotionally and stress. I too quit things after a time when it just becomes too much. I have changed majors 3 times bc thinking about what the evironment will be like in that chosen field and if I will be able to handle that makes me freak out and change my mind to something that will suit my needs for a calm, few people, stable atmostphere work place. Horticulture seems to be a good pick at the moment Anyway, it is nice to meet you and cool to be able to relate to you.

Thanks for the welcom everyone

You're welcome!

Hi jnet, where are you from in SC? I live in Raleigh, NC.

jnet, i love the avatar you chose.

hehe thanks alex! i used to be very into photography and this is a pic i took a few years back.

tdbrown82, no offense, but i'd rather not give out more details about my location, putting down what state i live in was a stretch for me, guess i'm a safety on the internet kinda person. sorry.