Did any kind of bullying affect you PSYCHOLOGICALLY?

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Yes.

I used to like to talk alot,mainly when I was younger(roughly ages 5-9).It was mainly about my obsessions/interests and hobbies and whatever else I liked.I also liked to act silly and wild,because I felt happy when I did this.

However,people soon told me things like:

"Shut up,no one wants to hear what you have to say."

"You talk too much."

"Why don't you be quiet?"

"You act like a psycho."

"You act like a ret*d."

"Do you have ADHD?"


You get what I mean.I soon took a strong dislike to talking,so I spoke only when I had to.There was also a time when I was in fifth grade and these people ganged up on me during soccer.I pushed one of the girls down and she hurt her knee.

They told the teacher and the teacher told me that I could not play with the other children for the rest of the year.I pretty much stopped hanging around with everyone until around mid-seventh grade.

To this day,I don't enjoy talking and I don't like to hang around peopel for long periods of time.What is funny,though,is the SAME people will ask me:

"Why are you so quiet?"

"Why are you always by yourself?"

-SpaceCase

Unless my first girlfriend cheating on me counts as bullying, then no.

Tim

Oh yeah, the bullying I experienced from age 2-17 has left its marks on me. If I was treated like a was worth a damn thing, I wouldn't have ventured into drug abuse either. Nor would child care(Is that what its called?) be involved with me(I am 19 years old!).

Basically, I had developed a hybrid dialect because of my parents being from the other side of the country. So with AS to cause more problems, I developed a mixed accent. As a result, I was bullied and made fun of whenever I spoke so I decided to silence myself. Then THAT was wrong too. I got questions like "Why are you so silent". It made me think "Take a wild guess you IDIOT!".

Besides that people always attempted to beat me up in school. I was a loner, was hated by everyone and being gifted in subjects didn't make things easier.

Haven't been bullied for over 2 years now. It's probably because I attend to a christian school

Yes, bullying in elementary did leave a very big impact on me. Afterwards through middle school I pretty much acted like I had less empathy then I really did. I'm not saying what I did was a good idea, but it worked for me and most likely wouldn't work ordinarily. What I did was thwak people on the head when they got annoying, did a high kick and nearly hit them in the head when I heard them talking behind my back, and one time a kid actually decided to assault me and I fended him off, quite well I might add. Best part was, I didn't throw a single punch and only blocked his attacks. This gained me some major respect in middle school but I didn't like having even the slightest reputation of being violent, so when middle school ended I went to a school out of my district. Here people like me better, even though they show me slight disrespect at times, but I can deal with it. I mean after all, it's alot better then elementary I'll tell you that.

P.S. remember kids, don't do as I did in middle school. It could get you in big trouble.

When they would tell me I was worthless.

Yes, bullying did affect me psychologically. Whoever started that cruel rumour that "sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me" was clearly talking out of their arse.

I was repeatedly called a Cockney by the bigger boys on my ugly, yellow School Bus. That went on, for four years. Twenty years later, I read the latest news stories that I find on the Routemaster, over the Internet, yet I can't get myself to follow the ultimatley Canadian sport of Ice Hockey. I keep telling myself that "I'm going to watch hockey, this Saturday...I'm going to watch hockey, this Saturday". Saturday evening comes around, and I end up making a late 6PM dinner, so I miss half of the games, and when I do have the time to watch hockey, I end up switching between WrongPlanet and Routemasters on the Internet, with my Limewire downloads playing in the background. I end up convincing myself that I was born very close to the Bow Bells, in London and that my parents adopted me. If somebody tells you something often enough, you really begin to believe it. You believe it even more, if you're a vulnerable person, like I am. I was five times as vulnerable at the age of eight, when that name-calling was just starting.

It's interesting how long psychological scars can last.

For me, the most painful legacy of my negative experiences has been an inability to trust. I feel that I can't trust people, so I keep people at arm's length and this impedes any overtures of friendship. I also had low self-esteem for years, where I felt I couldn't trust myself.

Also, I keep having the nagging feeling that the world is out to "get" me. Not literally, but I feel like I can never let my emotional guard down. I feel I must always be watchful and suspicious of others, which saddens me because it's not the way I'd like to perceive the world.

My biggest legacy of high school bullying was the fear of threat from virtually anyone, as in high school, I was bullied by people I didn't even recognize. Needless to say, it made college a somewhat difficult experience, even though not a single person bullied me there. Now, nearly six years later, the horrendous legacy is wearing off. It's been a year or two since I felt comfortable talking to new people again, and now I'm learning how to react to jokes at my expense without feeling threatened.

I was never bullied alot thanks to a "I don't give a s**t, FO" attitude I kept for a long time. Ridiculed sometimes yes, mostly by people I barely knew, but I never respected their opinions anyway. What hurt was not knowing why they thought I was odd, something I just couldn't understand myself.

That's probably the reason I gave up on ever having a normal life, too many negative comments like that and you start doubting yourself. Finding out more about AS and the spectrum is interesting though, maybe I'm not an alien after all..

Well it could be one of the reasons why I'm so cynical. I'm slightly paranoid, don't trust people often, and tend to expect the worst from everyday people as a whole. Bullying and political issues are both major reasons for that, I think.

I now have very low self-esteem. That will probably last forever. I think sometimes that I have grown out of it, then I find that I haven't.
When I was at school I just wanted other kids to leave me alone, to pretend that I didn't exist. That would have made life easier.

I had to suffer from kids harrassing me about the exact same thing for eight years straight. (I don't want to say what it is.) As soon as I even heard it, I felt like I was having a heart attack and I still have these horrible nightmares about it to this day. I heard it for the first couple days from these two guys at my new school this year, but it never caught on and they stopped. But even still, I'm afraid to go into my two previous school districts. I still cringe every time I hear it.

When they was talking behind my back and teasing me,now i want to kill them as*holes.

Verbal bullying effected me very severely pshycologically. When youve been through it 20 years you believe what they said as well.

I have zero confidence, self esteem, self worth as a result. I'm afraid of being me as it gets me hurt.

Only way i cope is by pretending 100% to almost be a different person.

Seeing shrinks as a result in combination with other problems.