Do you "friend-zone" people?

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Anyone ever actively decide to put someone in a "friend zone" - not just be put in it themselves?

What purpose does this serve? Is it a lie meant to spare someone's feelings? And what's with "not wanting to ruin the friendship" with a romantic venture?

For me, the friendship will happen first, THEN I will develop romantic interest. I don't "friend-zone" in terms of permanent assignment / never being able to get out of it. But any future girlfriend will be a friend of mine first.

I don't understand "friend-zoning" at all. To me, the only people I trust who aren't related to me are my friends (not that I trust all my friends), and I don't see how I could date anyone I don't trust. Then again, I don't understand dating either.

Well, I've met a number of people who I was on a date with initially, and I wasn't romantically attracted to them but still thought we could get along as friends, so have made that option available if they want it. Is that what friend-zoning is? If so, then yeah I've done it more than once.

I'm not very good at friends-then-lovers. I go straight to the flirting if that's where it's headed.

well, yes

Translation: " I really enjoy spending time with you, and I really want to be your friend, however I am not attracted to you romantically/sexually"

Being in the "friend zone" means your friends with someone of the opposite who you have feelings for, but that person does not reciprocate. However, if you don't really have those sorts of feelings for her, then you're just platonic friends.

Being "in the zone" sucks, it's like hell on earth, what you want so bad in the worst way possible is right there, but you just can't have it. Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.



This is how a lot of healthy and sustainable relationship begin, however not everyone sees that way, and it doesn't always go that way either. It's best to find a girl who values are in alignment with yours. Good luck to you.

I could never do it the way you do...I wonder if I'm too young? I don't understand "romantic attraction" at all, even though people have told me I've had crushes on others before (strangely, the "crushes" felt different each time). Another different thing about me is I'm willing to have sex with people I'm not necessarily dating.

I've also never done "flirting" on purpose--people have had to tell me that they were flirting with me before! And I don't know how to decide to date someone and then date that person. I just don't ask people to date me anymore.

This happens once in a while. So yes, I have done before.

I think I have done it a few times. The reason I would do it is that it is easier to be friends than to deal with the unexpected complexities of a romantic relationship. With friends, you never have to try and guess if you can touch someone, kiss them, etc. You know where you stand. It's part of what I call my "Eeyore complex". Why? Well, if you look at Eeyore's character in the original A.A. Milne Winnie the Pooh books, he is purposefully negative in order to be able to control social situations and his expectations from them. Expecting the negative is something that you can always meet. expecting the positive sets one up for an unexpected negative which can hurt too much.

I've 'friend zoned' a few guys before. 1 had a big crush on me, second was a couple of days ago.
I've been 'friend zoned' once, possibly cos i couldn't kiss when i dated him

Yeah, a few people I just did not find attractive at all. Nice people, but I just didn't feel any physical attraction.

Sadly, this one girl who is crazy about me I've friend zoned. She's kind of lively, but not enough, among other things. The attraction just isn't there. And I want to be friends with her but I also don't want to feed into her behavior.

friendzoning is more like the second scenario. the being friends and not more than that

Making friend isn't exactly my thing, and usually I'm on the other end of that deal. I'm not the friend-zoner but the friend zonie, if you will.

I "frienzone" people if they like me romantically but I don't like them, and have been "friendzoned" if I like someone romatically but they don't like me.

I don't deliberately put people into a "friend zone". I like to be open and genuine and prefer not to put up any kind of arbitrary barriers. Then again, I haven't really had anyone go after me, so I haven't felt the need to distance myself from anyone anyway.

Hmm...I think all of my closest male friends, apart from the one who is my ex, are guys I have friend-zoned.