New University/New Dorm and New Country
Living in a new country, at a new university and in a residence hall with other students. My situation is a bit easier because of the fact I am in my own shared apartment within the system, I lasted less than a week in the dorms. As part of my Australian PhD I am in the US for the next 12 months and this is the first time I have ever lived within university housing.
I was in a similar set of housing in the Army but the rules made life a bit easier. Struggling quite a bit with the culture of the place I live in. I socialise a fair bit and lots of people know me, but I feel like I made the mistake of being too social during my first few weeks because now I have to manage more relationships. I find it particularly difficult to deal with the girls, I have a girlfriend back home but figuring out an equilibrium with my friends, most of them are female, is a rather solid task. Especially since I have a hard time telling what their intentions are and when exactly I am in over my head.
The environment means that I have limited time to recharge and I have taken to just switching my phone off when I am in my room sometimes. I had a social meltdown and had to excuse myself from a pretty solidly sized dinner the other night. After sleeping for 12 hours, I felt rested enough to eat with people again. Hopefully there are some people who have successfully navigated this sort of situation previously.
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Life is real ! Life is earnest!
And the grave is not its goal ;
Dust thou art, to dust returnest,
Was not spoken of the soul.
I was in a similar set of housing in the Army but the rules made life a bit easier. Struggling quite a bit with the culture of the place I live in. I socialise a fair bit and lots of people know me, but I feel like I made the mistake of being too social during my first few weeks because now I have to manage more relationships. I find it particularly difficult to deal with the girls, I have a girlfriend back home but figuring out an equilibrium with my friends, most of them are female, is a rather solid task. Especially since I have a hard time telling what their intentions are and when exactly I am in over my head.
The environment means that I have limited time to recharge and I have taken to just switching my phone off when I am in my room sometimes. I had a social meltdown and had to excuse myself from a pretty solidly sized dinner the other night. After sleeping for 12 hours, I felt rested enough to eat with people again. Hopefully there are some people who have successfully navigated this sort of situation previously.
Hi 91! It's good to hear what you're up to these days.
I hope you manage to succeed in your studies, and I have to admit a certain envy with the female dilemma: how many of us Aspies are poking them away with a sh***y stick? I'm sure your communication skills are up to the challenge of telling 'em like it is.
I have had no more flame wars with the PPR group lately, I think that the quality of reply is mostly lamentable; I'll navigate my way round the other topics instead.
Speaking of meltdowns, I've had a sprinkling of those since I last corresponded with you: how about hooking up again? I reckon we had a fair bit of the same wavelength, I'd like to speak when your books aren't calling you. Take care.
I was in a similar set of housing in the Army but the rules made life a bit easier. Struggling quite a bit with the culture of the place I live in. I socialise a fair bit and lots of people know me, but I feel like I made the mistake of being too social during my first few weeks because now I have to manage more relationships. I find it particularly difficult to deal with the girls, I have a girlfriend back home but figuring out an equilibrium with my friends, most of them are female, is a rather solid task. Especially since I have a hard time telling what their intentions are and when exactly I am in over my head.
The environment means that I have limited time to recharge and I have taken to just switching my phone off when I am in my room sometimes. I had a social meltdown and had to excuse myself from a pretty solidly sized dinner the other night. After sleeping for 12 hours, I felt rested enough to eat with people again. Hopefully there are some people who have successfully navigated this sort of situation previously.
Hi 91! It's good to hear what you're up to these days.
I hope you manage to succeed in your studies, and I have to admit a certain envy with the female dilemma: how many of us Aspies are poking them away with a sh***y stick? I'm sure your communication skills are up to the challenge of telling 'em like it is.
I have had no more flame wars with the PPR group lately, I think that the quality of reply is mostly lamentable; I'll navigate my way round the other topics instead.
Speaking of meltdowns, I've had a sprinkling of those since I last corresponded with you: how about hooking up again? I reckon we had a fair bit of the same wavelength, I'd like to speak when your books aren't calling you. Take care.
Shoot me a PM whenever mate.
_________________
Life is real ! Life is earnest!
And the grave is not its goal ;
Dust thou art, to dust returnest,
Was not spoken of the soul.
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