Are you affable and liked in non social situations?

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I am referring to employees at the grocery store or other places of business.

I am extremely affable, friendly, and liked by others in these situations.

I can tell people like me in these situations.

I already know what the argument is. These people are employees and paid to be nice.
Let's assume I have accounted for that.

Has anyone else experienced the same thing?

Are you a lot more outgoing and friendly in non-social situations?
Do people seem to like you?

A few years ago, the manager of the local convenience store, the only one in town, had a really terrible disposition. I asked a couple of other people about her who knew her better and they said that they had never seen her smile.

So I decided I was going to make her smile. Every time I'd go in there, I'd try to say something really off the cuff to try to get her to smile. Usually she would ignore what I said and occasionally she would get mad about it.

Finally, after something like eight months, I finally caught her in a good mood and she actually smiled! After that, I gave up trying. It was just wasn't worth the trouble trying to get her to smile.

Yes, by the customers but never by the other employees. Note that I'm a very forthright person when working (I'm trying not to be any more) and this never sits well with other workers. I'm finding a middle ground now and in volunteering am liked by both finally.

Describes me to the letter lol. Basically at my last job, everyone loved me and begged me to stay (I wanted to but couldn't for various reasons). I'd have all sorts of people come in my office to get my opinion, or just to chat. Basically everyone I've met in a professional or academic setting has seemed fond of me. And almost every time I go to get my hair cut, I get at least one comment about how I'm such a "nice young gentleman" lol. When I was younger and used to visit friend's houses, their parents pretty much always fell in love with me and wanted to keep me lol, but their kids never really wanted to associate with me all that much.

However when transferred over to more social situations such as parties and whatnot I seem to come up short. I think people see me as boring or something, because I don't drink or "get crazy" or anything. And of course my social skills play a role too, they've gotten much better but still aren't perfect. I wouldn't say I'm boring by any means though, I just prefer different ways of having fun (instead of getting sloppy drunk and putting pictures of it on FB, I'd much rather go white water rafting or hiking or something). Unfortunately I seem to be in the minority on that with all the people I know.

I have my own business and deal with members of the public on a daily basis and have no problems at all. I'm cheerful, welcoming and helpful. Most of them are regulars, and I even know some of their names (which is pretty major for me) They come to buy something or have something mended, and there is a definite purpose to any conversation.

If I meet them outside of work I can't think of anything to say. Their approach is usually to ask me how my work is, but I hate talking about my work, I just enjoy doing it.

Parties are a no go area for me.

I try to smile, remark at the nice day/weather, and compliment store employees on the job they are doing. This is entirely dependent on whether or not these things are true or not. Some kids these days feel they are above jobs that I'd gladly take and do with a smile. As of late, a lot of pretty young cashier girls have been attempting to initiate flirtation. It took me a while to pick up on this. I've been practicing my chops in this realm since my 18th birthday. I never really had to do such things in school, as girls pursued me. Now I have to adjust to pursuing them. Maybe someday I'll get a #.

I'd say half of the time I'm joyful and happy, and outwardly friendly with strangers. Other times I'm not in the mood and want to be at home instead. So for me it's a toss-up like salad.