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Ive written about this coworker in another thread. I became obsessed with him because of his emotional inteligence.also, i thought he liked me. Hes nt. He said i would always be his friend. I told him i was in love with him. Well he didnt like that. He deleted and blocked me from facebook. Several weeks went by. He comes to talk to me. Asks me about my life. Tells me to stay in touch. Ok. So last night i texted him. I wanted confirmation. I said, are we friends?

He hasnt responded. I know its on purpose caz he always replies quickly. Am i supposed to infer now that we are not friends? Not talk to him when i see him. Im so confused. Please help.

I was going to write another text today explaining how i have aspergers. Because its been a whole year now. He was the closet thing to a real friend in my whole life. And im 33 hes 25. Would telling him help or hurt?

It would help, since it seems that this person has become your "special interest" or "favorite topic". Probably because you feel lustful towards him--it happens to NTs, too, but they deal with it in a more socially adept way. Like, they would consider "Would telling this person I have a crush on them ruin the friendship?" before doing it.

Just FYI, a lot of people don't date their co-workers.

I know how you feel, I have AS and I've never really had luck in the "romantic relations" department. It just seems like every time I feel something (which is a miracle because I tend to block my emotions), something bad happens and I'm sitting and texting, but slowly people stop responding, all while saying "everything's fine". Which is part of why I have a cynical view on the world nowadays (my signature explains the rest on that).
Here's a really good question: Why is it that "normal" people always lie about stupid crap, and never explain anything as to why?
Doesn't it make sense to "normal" people, that expaining to someone what happened and why just might actually HELP them?
Answer: of course not, they can't think the way we do, we realize that and accept that. But they don't realize that we can't think like them either. And so the vicious cycle continues and it only ends badly for us in the long run.