Been in my room since Sunday

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I lost all motivation to literally move, I went out to get a job last Sunday, and I haven't heard them call me back. I feel so fat. I know what I want to do, but I just feel like crap. It just became too much, since I don't want to be in my room all my life.

I save up 10,000 USD in the past yr. So money isn't my issue. Well it will be, but not right now lol. My biggest problem is my weight.

I need to join a gym. How do I get the motivation to literally get up, get ready, and go out into the world?

I was in my room for a while last week, refusing to leave. I finally did, things weren't automatically better but I'm feeling a little better just going outside. You certainly aren't going to get over anything staying in your room.

Take that money you saved and get a personal trainer, help him get you established on a strict regime. We aspies need it.

Hey you saved the money, now use it to extend your life and increase your happiness.

I'm dealing with the same issue, my life's just come to a standstill. It's really difficult to start moving again but the key is doing not thinking, if you stay in your head you'll think yourself a way out anyway. It's also important to find a way of excercise thats comfortable for you, I tried the gym but the chaotic nature of it made me very uncomfortable, turns out swimming is much better for me.

I would suggest figuring out what is causing your lethargy. If you have no energy or motivation, that suggests there is a problem (or more than one) which needs to be resolved. How is your mood? Are you depressed? Is so, you should seek help with your depression. How is your diet? Do you get at least a little exercise (even if it is just jogging on the spot or yoga stretches in your room)? Are there things in the forefront of your mind bothering you?

I get like that sometimes and it is usually because I have become overwhelmed by something (which could be emotional stuff, life upheavals, something upsetting me, having too many tasks to do at once which causes me confusion, or any combination of other things). This seems to cause me to "crash" for a while and I have to spend a while not doing anything in order to recover - it's a bit like the meltdown response to too much sudden stimuli only on a larger scale, since it can last for a week or more. I've learned that this just happens sometimes and I need to take some downtime to recover, much like NTs have to take some time to recover from a bout of flu, and accept that I probably won't get much done until I've recovered from it.

If you are in a similar state (overwhelm, depression, lethargy) trying to force yourself to do something which requires being in the opposite state, like go to the gym, is going to be difficult and probably won't help you resolve the problem (it might even make you feel worse). I would suggest doing some thinking around the problem and trying to find the cause and get help with that if it is appropriate, because if you can resolve that, everything else will be easier and more enjoyable.

It sounds like your anxiety is running away with you and taking you on a trip with it.

Sometimes when I lose my motivation, I have to meditate to get past it. Not that I was ever highly motivated to begin with though.

I have hopes so low that they can't fail expectations that don't exist. That might be part of my problem though.

Fat is not a feeling, and especially not if that's you in your avatar (if that is, I doubt your problem is your weight).

You have to get to the emotions behind it. You're possibly scared and overwhelmed, like someone else pointed out.

But, yeah, you're like me sometimes, I hide out in my room the same way that I get locked into my head and overthink things instead of taking necessary action.

Think of some simple activities to get you out of the house. Even if it's just to take a walk in the park, take some photos of a tree or something like that. Take a bus ride to a part of town you haven't been to before, go somewhere new, just something to do.

If you rely on work to get you out of the house, and you don't have a job, then that's a problem. Also if you feel the only thing that can get you out is going somewhere like the gym, then maybe that's putting you off due to social anxiety etc.