A girl flirted with me maybe?

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I went to a youth group thing, this past weekend. There was a girl there who I liked. She was very social and talktive, like one of those girls when you first walk in a room, who ask you what your name is, etc. Well throughout the weekend she kind of flirted with me, like laughing with or at some of the things I said, or always smiling and asking what's up? etc. Anyway me having AS, I am not as talktive, charming, nor good looking as the other guys, and she did flirt with maybe 1 or 2 other guys, as well. I gave her a little note saying I was glad to meet her, and my e-mail was blah blah blah. Anyway later on, she said to me, "what's up" again and I said I'm good, which is a wrong responce but I was kind of nervous so I always say stupid things when I am nervous. She was like, oh dustin you know you could be cooler, when I say what's say nothin much. I thought like I knew that, but I just say stupid things when nervous, so she asked me to repeat that 5 times which was a bit annoying. At the end she said she would e-mail me when she got home, well now it is 2 days later and no e-mail. I quit going to youth group for a long time, but I am going to go back and she will prob be there, but I dont want to mess it up. Should I ask for her e-mail, or just let it go? I usually get rejected at the second time I see a person and I dont want this to happen this time.

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Just wait, and see what happens. Go to the youth group but don't make a big deal out of it, just be friendly and see if she talks to you. What's the rush? Say that you have trouble talking about things, and maybe ask if she will help by talking to you more? Be a little cautious that her jokes are well-intentioned, though, and not just to get a laugh from her peers at your expense.

If you pester her, she'll run away from you.

Perhaps when she knows you better she'll be able to understand that you prefer to communicate by e-mail, if that is indeed the case.

That is harder said than done though, I guess I feel if she does not e-mail me that is kind of just a hint of rejection. I get confused why people say they are going to do something and they don't. Also how do I interact with her at youth group? Do I go sit with her and her friends, or do what I normally do and sit alone?

If she is a sociable person, she probably belongs to lots of clubs and things and knows lots of people. So it might be hard for her to find the time to e-mail you, especially if she knows she'll be seeing you again soon she might not bother, choosing to speak directly instead.

Don't assume she's deliberately trying to spite you, dude!

Put yourself on the edge of the group so that you're not obviously sitting apart, but aren't assuming any sort of group acceptance either. She might choose to invite you in, or sit between you and the rest of the group as a bridge. I dunno, really, it's hard to tell until you're actually there. I can tell you're trying to plan everything in advance. Although I understand this, and I would probably do the same, my advice to you is not to worry about it too much. Just see what happens. Otherwise if you plan it all in your head and then something different happens on the day, you'll get panicky and maybe a bit defensive and that'll screw you up.

Don't worry, don't plan... just turn up and see. I wouldn't even bother dressing differently or anything like that - it's too obvious, plus she took an interest in you before, anyway, didn't she?

Seems to me like she is messing with you...

When she asks you "whats up?", there is nothing wrong with your "I'm good" response.
More probably, it's the way you said it which she picked up on.
Asking you to repeat 5 times, is a 'shit-test' ( you said it was annoying - it is meant to be.)
If you did what she asked, then you failed the test: no 'alpha-male' is going to do this ( better to just laugh and ask her to repeat "'sup?" 5 times. (always be light-hearted.)

Anyway, she has your e-mail and has not e-mailed. Do not pursue this line any further.
I would recommend that you sit with another group (let her approach you.)

Whatever you do, act friendly & casual ( 'cool' to use her words).
Remember, you are going out for a relaxing pleasant time, she is entering your reality.

s**t test, yea, you got a point. I kind of was reluctant and asked her to stop, but she just started laughing, and saying I was blushing, so she won. I am not really an afla male, or anything, and that is kind of apparent as I am not that good with sports. Do you think since she did that she dislikes me because of it?

What if she really did mean to email you, but lost the paper she put your address on?

Then she will most likely mention that next time I see her.

If she disliked you, then she would just ignore you.
Your response will not put her off being friendly towards you.
But will maybe classify you as a 'let's just be friends' rather than a 'boyfriend'.

She sounds like one of those kinds of people who, when they see someone who is "alone", they must instantly talk to them. Maybe she thinks she's doing a good deed and thinks she's making you feel better or some silly s**t like that, when all it's doing is obviously confusing you. She may also be one of those other types of anoying people who just need to know everything about everybody near them. In other words, she's an NT being a dumb NT.

Just let it go.

Yea I am pretty confused. Really people like that, that instantly talk or feel sorry for you for sitting alone turn me off, I want them to leave me the hell alone, which they usually do when I am not receptive to them. Honestly it seemed like she only interacted with me and 2-3 other guys, but she never really tried to get to know me, it seemed, and I did not get to know her. (maybe she opened up to the others, I really don't know, but she prob did, but I don't open up well to people I don't know well and that seems to be a big turn off to NT's, who like want to know your life story. Thank God I am homeschooled, so that is prob why I am more confused about this as I have not had as many (I have had some obviously) social interactions. In general NT girls confuse me the worst. I'll have to let it go.

Any other thoughts?