This woman definitely likes me

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Ok this will probably be a long post and Im not sure if I could properly articulate the situation accurately but I will try. I go to the supermarket everyday(this keeps me out of the house since I dont go anywhere else). There is a woman named Claudia who works there. She is 30 yrs old, Latino and very cute. I have actually known her for a long time..I would guess 2-4 years. every time she and i are both in there and I walk past her sandwich booth she stops me to talk. We wi talk for 30plus minutes. I am very good at picking up when girls are flirting with me(this often makes me doubt my aspies diagnosis) an she will always say things such as ''you're so smart'' ''you're so funny'' ''you're so cute''...and today she told me that I smell so good( and to be honest I smelled AWFUL..I was sweaty from walking my dog lol) Maybe it was my pheromones idk? either way im confused because sh is 30 and i turn 23 in a few hours(bday is oct 15)...also a few months ago(February) she told me she had a bf. I had asked her what she had done for valentine's day, and she told me that she was with her bf. Still she has always seemed interested in me.

Idk why I am posting this thread...but felt the need to talk about my situation with her. It should also be noted I very rarely buy sandwiches from her..so she;s not trying to bribe me lol. I have occasionally bought sandwiches maybe 5 times in the yrs that I've known her and she always slices up the ''premium meats'' for me.

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If she already has a boyfriend, it's quite possible she's just being friendly and making conversation, I know when I worked in retail I'd always try to chat with the regulars.

Happy birthday.

I got no idea, I'm apparently utterly oblivious when girls are flirting with me. I'm learning a bit more now. IE, if they just stare at you all the time, then MAYBE that means something. I've told this story on here all the time, but here is a conversation with a girl who likely wanted a one night stand, setting is a convenience store where I used to hang out with my friend who was a clerk there.

Girl:
So how old are you?
Me:
21
Girl:
Do you know anything fun to do around here?
Me:
Nope, I don't do anything fun. Sometimes I ice skate, but it's closed right now cuz it's 11PM.
Girl:
Is that your jeep out there?
Me:
Nope, I have a Supra but it's broken in my garage.

Then she asked me for my Facebook, told her I didn't have one, she wrote down her number and gave it to me, bought her stuff and walked out. I had no idea she was flirting with me until she wrote down her number.

My friend was like "Dude she wanted to f**k you, you know."

Yep, so even when the girls want me I'm still hopeless. So be lucky you know when girls are flirting with you. I was just like "Why is she asking me all these questions for?" And of course since I wasn't rehearsed I gave totally ret*d answers to all of them. At times, though, I feel "NTs" are clueless, like one guy I know who I skate with occasionally was like "Dude that coach said hi to me and smiled, maybe she likes me!" And when people do that to me, I either don't notice it, or worse, assume it's fake/superficial.


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Not related, but I used to/still do the same, I like going to stores, unlike a lot of people with Aspergers. I'll even just like, walk through malls alone and buy like, a single cup of coffee or something if that. Gives me an opportunity to "get out" with all my interactions being one where I'll never "know" the person or they "know" me. My favorite store is the Asian Supermarket, I always go there when I'm feeling bad, and get cheered up for some reason, like it feels like a slice of a foreign country. It's nice.

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I don't think you can conclude that she is flirting with you. Or if she is flirting with you, it is in an entirely non-serious way.

It took me years to learn that friendly behavior on the part of others did not mean that they were looking for something more than just a friendly conversation. If you live your life hiding your feelings, you assume other people hide their feelings as well. When you encounter a person who is just openly friendly, it is easy to misinterpret their behavior as a "come on"

I think the best approach in this situation is to appreciate her friendship, enjoy the conversations you have with her and leave it at that. To demand anything more risks creating an awkward situation that will make it hard to maintain the friendship.

I dunno really.

My friend, whilst sorta "high" on Stacker 2 diet pills, 2 Red Bulls, and a Five Hour Energy, just walked into a gas station, saw the girl working at the counter, was like "Hey we should catch up sometime. Do you have a boyfriend? All right, you don't, well that's good, how about going out for sushi, I know a great sushi place in _____." Just like that, they exchanged Facebooks/numbers, and my friend apparently has a date with a girl he doesn't know at all. So it is sorta that easy sometimes. My friend is also a 6'2 270lb black guy, if that matters. Yep.

So if you can spit those lines like a sales script, getting dates is that easy. Of course you need balls of steel.
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Happy Birthday!
If I were you I wouldn't talk to her about the situation since she already has a boyfriend. It could just be a friendly talk. When I was working in retail, similar situation happened to me many times. I was just talking to the regulars and they wanted to talk to me more outside of work o_o which kinda sour-ed everything.

February was NOT a few months ago. She could be long broken up. Ask her out for coffee.

so, are you going to ask her out?

Show her the zombie smiling massive dog,
she will be like putty in your hands

Honestly, just ask her if she wants to get coffee sometime or go for a dog walk
Dont react badly if she refuses,
she might not give you the premium meats again