People thinking you are a "know it all"

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Im not sure if this is an aspie thing or if it is a me-thing. Do a lot of people here get accused of being a know it all?

It's certainly not all aspies, but I've noticed it is rather common. About half of the aspies I know (myself included) are perceived to be "know it all"s. That's not to say that we're not, though. Because of our memories many Aspies actually do know significantly more than the average person. I mean really significantly more, to the point that people see as us geniuses who are versed in every subject conceivable. Regardless, people still don't like it, except when they need our help with something.

I'm sure some have thought of me that way since I can be good at remembering random facts. I've been called walking dictionary, but that's an exaggeration. I wish I was like one, but I'm not.

That's a reaction I don't understand. Who doesn't want to know things and be smart? Why would anyone mind people knowing facts?

It's a bit the same with memory too. I talked to a classmate in junior high and she mentioned a guy we both we knew, and something he had done. That surprised me because that action went against something he had said earlier and I reminded her what she had told me about him in 8th grade. She laughed and said "You remember everything!" but even with my poor people reading skills, I still got that she wasn't really amused and she wasn't really impressed, she was uneasy about me and uncomfortable about me remembering so well.
I don't get that at all. I have the opposite problem: I can get upset that people don't recall anything, don't remember things I have told them. It's like it doesn't matter to them at all sometimes

Yeah people often see me as a genius, because i can know certain things, but i can barely study because of my adhd, so they just think i know the thigs just because i know, like if i know it all without studying, they just dont notice that, i cant study too much, but when i can study for those little spans of thime, i can understand faster and easily what i need.

But yeah people often tell me that, so that is why i started acting below my true potential level, this post could make you understand easily what im saying.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt212544.html

The 'Know it all' criticism has always annoyed me. Do we really live in a culture where we are to be ashamed of and denegraded for knowledge. If so we really are a doomed species!

I've been accused of knowing lots of random facts (I don't), but never a know-it-all.

denegrated

Agh, I get this a lot.
My sister keeps saying that I don't know everything when I give her solutions that she disagrees with, but a lot of the time, I feel like I actually do know everything. Especially if it's about an obsession

On the other hand, my classmates always ask me for help, and it really get annoying at a certain point.

I have been accused of being a know-it-all and I do not know lots of random facts.

Know-it-all is not to be confused with having a lot of knowledge. Know-it-all is a pejorative term used to describe someone who thinks they know better/more than others, or who "always seems to have an answer for everything" or who is unreceptive to the feedback of others. It is more a matter of delivery than it is of content.

I can be a bit of a pedant when I am not paying attention. And my language use can be overly formal and my tone terse. I do not mean it that way but that is the way it comes out if I am not paying attention to how I am speaking. I think this is why people call me a know-it-all. That, and if I am passionate about something I have a hard time letting up. And if someone is factually incorrect, I find it almost impossible not to correct them.

I have a friend who truly is a font of random knowledge. No one would ever call him a know-it-all, though, because he has a really wonderful way of sharing his knowledge in a very free and open way. He is much more easy going than I am and is very outgoing.

So I don't think it has anything at all to do with how much you know, but how you present your knowledge.

...know-it-all!

I've been told as long as I can remember not to 'make people feel bad' by appearing too smart. I've resented this as I see it as another way I am asked to 'alter' myself for the comfort of others. I am not claiming that I am so smart, I just love learning and general knowledge. I, too, cannot understand how people aren't curious or don't want to learn about the world. All I do is share information. I am not trying to make anyone feel bad.

Yes, and the older you get, the less people like it. I try not to go to meetings of any kind anymore. It is better for everyone if I just stay home.

There's a cartoon I like, which says, "Those who fail to study the lessons of history are doomed to repeat it, and those who do study the lessons of history are doomed to sit helplessly by watching them." That's about the size of it.

Yea, I have had that in the past. In some cases it was more like a jealousy thing. Some neurotypical peers would did not have the same skills. It would alternate between put downs of the results of my work to your a know it all, to your using too many big words. A form of bullying really. There approach did not work out in the end.

Only in the past I have.

Yup, I get it all the time. My speech tends to be proper most of the time and I have an almost inexhaustible amount of knowledge in my head. That knowledge invariably looks for an outlet. It's not my fault that other people fill their time with empty pursuits like sports, Facebook and reality game shows. Perhaps if they were to invest their time more wisely then they could have a good conversation with me. Fortunately, it is not a problem I have with people who are educated. Unfortunately, most of the people I work with are high school educated (if that) and thus are limited in both their vocabulary and knowledge.

I've never been accused of being a know-it-all. I've been called a "walking dictionary" or "walking medical encyclopedia", though.

I'm a high school dropout and GED graduate. I consider myself quite intelligent.