Your in luck. I'm a female aspie, and I work at TSA. Don't be so fooled by our uniforms. Underneath, everyone is a normal nice people, mostly, especially if you're flying out of Texas. No one is singling you out, if they do, its because they are just trying to do a good job. Don't get intimidated. I've worked at TSA for 4 years now, and all those stories you hear on the news, would never happen where I work. I think those stories are either false, or extremely exaggerated. Also, passengers can make mountains out of molehills.
Here are the rules: Shoes, belts, jackets off. Everything out of your pockets including paper and candy. Your bags and stuff go in the bucket which goes through the xray. If you're going through the metal detector, think ok do I have any metal. Take everything metal off your body. If you're going through the bodyscanner, all you do is stand on the yellow feet and hold your arms over your head. It doesn't see you naked. If it alarms, it doesn't mean you have anything and no one is targeting you. There could be a wrinkle in your pant cuffs, and they will say they need to pat your ankles down, no big deal, and you're done.
My advice: lose the judgement that TSA is out to get you and you'll be fine. If you hold that judgement while you're walking through security, you'll just attract attention to yourself.
Let me know if you have any questions, I'll be happy to answer them.