Quick question about calling somebody

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There's a girl that I really like that I've been sort of seeing for almost a year (by sort of I mean I maybe see her once every couple of weeks, and have taken her out only a few times.) She almost never calls me, but I try to call her at least once a week. She rarely answers and I usually leave a message. Putting aside the fact that she almost never calls me to begin with, should the guy be calling the girl more than once a week if I'm only leaving messages? In other words, how often is calling too often?

The part of me that likes her wants to call her every night, but the aspie part of me believes that the fact that she almost never answers her phone for me means that she isn't really in to me that much. In person, I can't figure her out at all. Anyway, any help would be appreciated.

depend's on the girl but from what you put sound's more like she hates ye gutz and only wants ye when shes bored.

Should ask her calmly why she doesn't pick up the phone

Someone shoot me im offering it out again you should read over this aelfstone if it don't work you probably might need to take the hint...

http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/html ... eness.html

I was afraid someone would suggest that, but not really that surprised. I've been coming up with all sorts of excuses for this girl's behavior, but it's probably as simple as she just doesn't like me. Well that's just peachy. She would probably still call me after a couple of weeks if I didn't. Being treated like that hasn't been great, but I was desperate for any sort of relationship. Time to move on, I guess.

On a related note, do people in the first couple of stages in a relationship tend to see or call each other more than once every couple of weeks?

^^ can't answer that last question as I've never been in a relationship, but in reply to your first question sorry to say but it doesn't sound like she's that interested. What do you mean by "seeing her"? do you mean sleeping together? It doesn't sound like she "hates your guts" like the other guy said, coz then she would have gone to greater lengths to get rid of you and never answer her phone at all. It sounds more like she just isn't that interested but doesn't want to be mean and let you down harshly. I had a similar situation with a guy going on for two years, only he DID call me every night and day and pretty much stalk me. He also had a girlfriend of 5 years who he treated like poo but he was a bit funny in the head - not aspie funny but drug-farked funny. It ended up escalating out of proportion and got a bit nasty. Anyway, I think it's best to take the hint and quietly back away now, then at least she'll probably respect you for not following her around and you might be able to salvage a friendship later on.

Gamester here.

Dude....oye vey. and for that matter Oh Bloody Hell.

This is one friendship destined for brevity, at least your smart in not calling daily. only do that if you're actually dating the girl.

nah. this relationship isnt and won't be going anywhere fast. trust me, I should know, I've been through 2 and a half. the half, we weren't dating, but we were close to it............till she turned lesbian....long story, don't ask.

so like Cap said, disapper. for a good long while.

“”Then at least she'll probably respect you for not following her around and you might be able to salvage a friendship later on.””

Like but my experience with been in 10 relationships in the past and all the others after it I find one who’s detached to be a user...

Might be like that in a aspie person...

But you will be surprised what a nt is capable of and we tend to sacrifice our own respect just to gain friendship with a person.

Like to know the outcome though I do keep it to myself, and fact it takes me 2 weeks to phone someone & in the end I totally stop trying , may work for a female, but maybe she just feels if she does something that she doesn’t want to hurt him as I find most females tend to do….

+ the fact he is saying he been seeing her nearly a year..

Thanks everyone for the replies. No, I hadn't been sleeping with her. It was hardly even making out, and even the last two times that I saw her, it wasn't even that. I did get to see her again last Wednesday, but even with my terrible ability to read people I could still tell she wasn't very interested. She seemed more excited to talk to her roommates rather than me, although I am not the most exciting person to be around. Anyway, she hasn't called me, and I deleted her number from my phone so I wouldn't get lonely or depressed and call her.

smart move.

move on, forget, and go find another girl.

trust me, do that, and it might make them want you........or it might make them hate you. My second ex hates me.............but we won't go into that.