Have you ever moved at least partially because of aspergers.

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I'm thinking of moving in janurary, to a larger city, I feel the odds of finding someone that has similiar interest to be of much greater odds.


I'm sure I live in a metro of 200k and will be moving to one of 6 mil. I'm just wondering if I'll find it better or worst for my AS.

If its minneapolis, let me know.

otherwise. Yes it will be good. The thing about big cities is, all interests/groups are represented.

I did that, but I struggled finding people with the same interests, and I found that I didn't want to jump on the "big city" urban life train with a lot of changes and different environments either. It just failed for me. I am better alone, in my home town. lol. There is a lot of obstacles and struggles in big cities, but other than that, it is just perfect for what I recognize as a good Aspie life. You just need to know what you should do, be prepared.

Yeah, though for a different reason. Several years back I moved to an area with more public transport since I had to stop driving (executive function issues). This might be a more autism, rather than Aspergers issue - ymmv.

When I was 18, we moved to a different area (as opposed to a different house in the same area), due to my having become the object of every bully, and the butt of every joke in the neighborhood where I grew up. I can't say that my autism was the only reason, but it played a big role in the decision of where to go; FAR enough that I'd likely meet nobody in public from the old place.

Charles

I moved a lot for a while. Sometimes people move for what is called a "geographical cure" thinking that they will be happier somewhere else without addressing underlying issues. However, I am of the opinion that a move can be a very good thing - if your only obligation is to yourself, particularly. You know yourself and you seem to think things through. You might do a little research into the area you plan to move to ensure whatever criteria you require is met. For example, you might be looking for a nice cluster of artsy and book cafes or whatever sorts of things feed your passions. If I could, I would do the same.

I would like to move constantly from a place to another. I hate seeing the same faces everyday (I mean neighbors :/ )

I personally wouldn't bother moving as I'd never assume people were going to be any different in a new place; in fact I know they wouldn't

Human nature is basically the same wherever you go and if I'm not popular where I live now I'm not going to suddenly become the life and soul of the party if I moved elsewhere.

Plus my situation could end up a lot worse if I moved.

I plan never to move from my house as I like it too much

It all depends on how outgoing/sociable you are really

I have moved at least once due to noise. The suburban railway was very close to my apartment. Although I live in a big city I like it here in the suburban area. I have much more opportunities to socialize with like-minded people and to go to concerts than I'd have in a town, not mentioning job opportunities.

I'd love to move to a more urban area, but my choices of urban areas within the US would be Sitka, Alaska (for the fishing and outdoors) or Santa Fe, New Mexico (for the culture).

Because of my sensory issues, I would rather live in an isolated cabin or cottage some distance from any other people, but not so far that I wouldn't be able to get groceries and such without great effort. Maybe a house with a big yard to separate me from neighboring houses would be enough, but I can not yet afford that on my current income which is way way below poverty level. I have had unpleasant exchanges with neighbors, passersby, apartment managers and landlords over noise issues.

I would not like to move to a big city though. The traffic, crowds, etc. would be overwhelming. I prefer living in towns of from ten to twenty thousand population. That's big enough to have decent stores and such, but small enough to not have huge crowds or traffic problems. I think people in towns that size are generally nicer to each other than they are in big cities too.

Smaller towns may be even nicer if people accept you, but of course there are advantages and disadvantages to wherever you choose to live. Big cities might be centers of culture, but I don't go out much and create my own culture for the most part.

Moved out of the city for sensory reasons.

When I was 13, we moved to Montana because it be in an Indian reservation and the schools be better because they were a lot smaller and it be a lot less students. It was mainly because of me and it be a better education for me and they would follow my IEP better rather than trying to take short cuts or see me as a behavior issue and trying to do it their way. It was just something my parents did for the best of us kids and it was just to get us through school because my brothers were unhappy too in their old school because they were over crowded and my brother wasn't being challenged enough. Plus our grandparents were getting too old an my uncle was doing all the work around their land so it was also so we be closer to them and they help the out too. It was killing two birds with one stone. Well more than two birds of course since it was more than two things.

This is not perhaps what you had in mind, but in the summer of 2008 (BEFORE my diagnosis) I forced myself to move to the Yukon to try and "grow up" or "snap out of it". Big mistake because I can neither grow out of it nor snap out of it and every day brought forth numerous terrible meltdowns.

I've moved into my own place 6 years ago this week. I couldn't handle the negative slant that my parents had about autism and special interests. My mum shushed me about a special interest of mine telling me that my dad was in the next room. I had an anxiety attack while washing dishes that same evening. I had that anxiety attack because I knew that if I didn't move out, that my mum would continue to silence me if I'd mention something even subtle about any special interests of mine. I've basically moved out because of my dad and I hope to never have to move back in.

Yes, but you have better continue to work on your social skills. All people, including eccentrics like certain baseline social operations that we don't naturally give. Do not think it's a sure-fire cure. But, it does help.