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Nicnic
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24 Nov 2012, 9:57 pm

Would it be OK to tell this girl with a bf I want to be her friend but am afraid to because I might end up liking her,( I actually do already but I can't say that)? Or would that make me look like wimp? I think she wants to hang out with me but did not realize it until days later. lol

When I got her number she said she had a math exam that she had to study for and are you going to be on campus this weekend? I just replied no and walked away. I could have easily been there if I wanted. Epic fail.

Another time when I was talking to her at lunch and then she asked me if I like coffee, which was strange since no one was drinking any, I said yes I like coffee. I did not say anything after that. Did that mean she wanted me to ask her to go get coffee with her at a different time?

Also does this mean she likes me? Because honestly I have no idea what she wants from me.



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24 Nov 2012, 10:07 pm

Just take things as they come to you. Don't think about it. I would say she likes you as a friend and you could benefit from that.



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24 Nov 2012, 10:25 pm

Nicnic wrote:
Would it be OK to tell this girl with a bf I want to be her friend but am afraid to because I might end up liking her,( I actually do already but I can't say that)? Or would that make me look like wimp?

It might make her feel uncomfortable, both when you say it and every time she is around you henceforth. I wouldn't say it, but rather, just be her friend. Easier said than done, I know, but work on responding more positively to her questions, rather than just coming out and saying you want to be friends.



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24 Nov 2012, 10:28 pm

Just be her friend now, no need to get all mushy and confess your "bawww feelings" to her. You know, boyfriends don't always stay boyfriends forever... So one day that dude could be gone, and guess who's next? Who knows It could be you!


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24 Nov 2012, 11:11 pm

Have you read any of what Henry Miller and Lenny Bruce have written or listened to the album "Exile in Guyville" by Liz Phair and thought about the trials and travails of censorship? Sometimes I wonder how we've become so politically correct and isolated from one another and so afraid to be ourselves. Since when did difference become wrong? Ah, but we ARE different, mon ami! :)

Here is a video from the late Elliott Smith: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VXsHTdUK ... ure=fvwrel

I hope it's okay that this song was sent in a link with this particular video attached. I thought it was kind of good, but hope not to have imposed personal preferences upon you or anyone reading this. The reader is free to choose to ignore anything and anything I've written or attached.

What I'm attempting to convey here is that it's okay to say pretty much anything that is neither offensive nor obsessive and to express yourself in a a positive manner when you are indicating that you like someone. But then it is up to that other person to decide whether they want to continue reading or listening and watching and become friendly, get a bit closer and possibly more than this.

Attempt to understand the other person's "feelings". Friendship involves sensitivity and it's a two-way street.