A whole mosaic of sexual orientation in one person!

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Sometimes I feel straight, sometimes I feel gay, but most of the time I'm asexual. I'm also very androgynous. I don't like to dress feminine, but at the same time, I don't feel comfortable in completely masculine clothes. I tend to have emotional non-sexual crushes on females, but when I do have a sex drive (very infrequent, but not unheard of), it's definitely heterosexual.

What is this all about? Will I ever be able to find a long-term partner who can deal with me? I'm not the promiscuous type and I really do want a long, meaningful relationship, but it looks as if I'll have zero luck finding someone who is willing to commit if I'm just this whole mess of different things. Does anyone else feel this way? What did you do about it? Sometimes I envy the people who can just simply say "I'm gay" or "I'm straight." I just feel like a big ball of wibbly wobbly timey wimey stuff shaped into a biological female.

Well, as an aromantic-asexual, I can tell you that you can cross one off your list.
Asexual means you have absolutely no sexual attraction - ever. Aromantic you completely lack any emotional attraction to people - ever,
If you express sexual attraction at any time, then that means you are not asexual. Ditto For the aromantic. While yes, you can have a sex drive if you are asexual, this cannot be targeted to anyone and anything. Therefore - those times you feel asexual, I would say you are just "not currently interested."

As for everything else - there is the option of being bi. However I have no idea how that works. Remember though, this can very much just depend on the person. It does not mean you have to be attracted to every guy/girl that comes along. As for romantic attractions - important to distinguish - is it actually romantic attraction or just admiration and respect (like a fan)? If the later, then you are definitely not gay.

I can only tell you of my experience, my brain sex changes from the most agressive male - on a spectrum all the way to the most caring, heart-felt enlightened woman.

A pity my physical sex doesn't change with it lol

I have to have an element of the woman to like men, and an element of man to like woman, but i like transexuals all the time.. figure that one out