Are you a conflict avoider or do you stand your ground?

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I am curious. I have evolved from cluelessly and needlessly confrontational when I was younger, always in an argument, to nonconfrontational in the extreme, maybe even passive.

I don't go off half cocked, and I prefer to be non-confrontational, but if backed into a corner (metaphorically) I will fight.

Life is picking your battles.

I had a car accident a couple of months ago which wasn't my fault, but my poor communication skills plus lack of assertivness stopped me from speaking out against
the perpetrator

I then had to recall the accident to the police which was really intimidating, and later on
in court. I ended up loosing the case cause I wasn't assertive enough in the way I talked

When I was younger, I let people walk over me. The only time I ever stood up for myself was in middle school when someone humiliated me in front of everyone else. I got back at him, but I wasn't very tactful and he noticed. Both of us were put on detention because of it.

The school punishment system was a joke though. If you hit back, you get thrown in detention. That's why I stopped hitting back at all the jackasses who pushed me around which caused a lot of stress

I stand my ground always, but I also always avoid conflicts.

Just because you leave to avoid a conflict does not mean you have given up, at all.

I avoid conflict in real life and on the internet.

My brain can't seem to be able to translate my brain-language into coherent words.
So usually when someone starts an argument/criticises my opinion, I can't find the words to respond back with.

I am non-confrontational to the extreme. I literally can't. I piss and moan (so they don't hear me) but I just can't stand up for myself. I always back down. I avoid ANY conflict. It's not that I am afraid, but I just can't. In my mind I am FEARLESS and ready to rock and roll, but just go there at all.

There are MANY times I want to be. Like when someone wrongs me, ESPECIALLY in things that their driving skills (or lack there-of), line cutting, etc. Things that REALLY anger me and they are clearly in the wrong, and I still can't confront, and I don't like tattling on them in case they find out it was me or somehow I have to confront them or others because of it.

if somebody corners me, i will do what i can to neutralize that person. but otherwise i avoid conflict like the plague. i would much rather love people and have them love me.

I avoid getting myself into conflicts whenever possible because I'm aware that I have a tendency to turn violent if cornered.

I have an intense dislike for conflict. I used to avoid it at all costs, but eventually realized that avoiding conflict can lead to greater conflict later. So if I encounter a situation that looks like it could fester into a worse situation if ignored, I will face it directly and try to resolve the conflict quickly before it gets out of hand.

I hate confrontation it makes me so nervous ! xx

I hate confrontation it makes me so nervous ! xx

I do not like conflict in the least, and I seldom ever get truly angry. However, that does not mean that I do not stand up for myself, or back down at the first sign of adversity. I do try to handle conflicts in a non-confrontational way though, unless a true confrontation is absolutely required. I find that conflict and confrontation rarely ever resolves a situation, and only serves to make it worse. Respect is a much more powerful conflict resolution tool .

I don't like confrontation either it makes me uneasy. I used to have trouble differentiating between people being aggressive and people being assertive. As I've got older, I've realised it's good to stand up for yourself sometimes and it's something I should try to get better at.

Absolutely hate any kind of conflict and actively avoid it...perhaps to an extreme, though. Many people I know have noted that I "should stop being so agreeable", and even my boyfriend thinks this.

In reality, this kind of stuff is subconscious and I don't realize that I'm doing it, because I don't want people to criticize me, think badly of me, or have less of a connection with me. I am a very unique person, and I am so self-conscious about this that my instinct is to keep quiet and not voice strong thoughts or mention opposing opinions. However, with my boyfriend's support, I've been voicing my opinions on things more and so far, I have not been met with any conflicts.