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Hi my name is sarah. I'm nineteen and I go to an adult transition program for people with Asperger's Syndrome called Chapel Haven. I moved here in July and my six months here has been very difficult. But the reason I am creating this post is because of a certain staff here. She is the therapist here on campus and I am very upset and no longer trust her. My very good friend here told me yesterday that she was very uncomfortable during her session with the therapist because the therapist was talking about me. About a month ago I was hanging out with one of the other students in my apartment and he got on top of me and started sucking on my neck and kissing me. I was able to get away by pushing him off. I ran into my room and locked the door. He went home and the following day I told the staff who didn't seem to believe me. The made both me and Dylan (The boy) sign a contract saying that we would not talk to each other as long as we are here. I also spoke to another staff who asked me some questions about my relationship with Dylan. I feel very scared and vulnerable knowing Dylan still lives on campus even though we are not allowed to be around or talk to eachother. My very good friend Jennica (The one who said the therapist was talking about me) said that Kelly (The therapist) told her when Jennica said "I don't feel safe about Dylan still being on campus knowing what he did to Sarah." "If dylan was really dangerous we would have kicked him out. I quite frankly do not believe Sarah's story. She probably just made out with him and regreted it later because sex and sexual actions are not allowed on campus." Jenn told me that at another session when she and Kelly were talking about relationships in general Kelly said "Did you know that Sarah and Damien are dating?" Damien is my friend. We are not dating. She should not be talking about her students with other students. She also should be sharinf her personal opinions about the other students issues. She should also not be gossiping. This whole issue has made me want to quit Chapel Haven. I'd rather get my own apartment as soon as I can rather than live her with a backstabbing therapist for a year and a half. I guess I just need some support. The sad thing is that I should be getting that support here. Instead I resort to the interwebs. Hah. Thank you for reading.

Your therapist's behaviour sounds completely unacceptable in my opinion. I would speak to a family member, or someone that you trust where you are and explain how unhappy you are with the situation. Even if that is your therapist's opinion, she should not be sharing it with other service users - it is extremely unprofessional.

I hope this can be sorted out, as you deserve a far more caring and supportive environment than this one.

The therapist's behavior is wrong and extremely unethical.

She should also understand that one of the major difficulties that women have with sexual assault is being disbelieved or being blamed for somehow causing it to happen, and not contribute.

I hope you can find a solution for this. I'd be having meltdowns in that situation.

"he got on top of me and started sucking on my neck"


what is he a vampire? The therapist is off key.

That therapist is a terrible person and I'm sorry that you have to deal with that.

I think I actually looked into joining Chapel Haven about a year ago, but after hearing about the horror stories that go on there I'm glad I decided not to go in the end.

I would seek out the management of the facility. Tell them what happened both with dylan AND with the therapist.

Speaking about you to the other residents with names involved is not only unethical, but is also illegal. Take action. Do not relent.

If there is no satisfaction from them... then pursue criminal charges.

That therapist needs to be disciplined... up to and including losing their license.