Help ? Any opinions? Aspergers?

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I know that to get a diagnosis online is not going to happen but advice / opinions would be great.
In all fairness i guess i need something to go on because i am petrified to go to my doctor and just say it.
I mean i have 2 younger siblings diagnosed on the spectrum, my older sister (since finding out about autism) seems to have it and my other brother has borderline autism ? < no idea about this.

However I am not basing myself on my siblings entirely i guess they just help me see that prehaps some of my habits are not normal. I like to be alone, i have a partner but i still like alot of time alone luckily he understands me. I like things to be done in certain ways, and i mean to take me shopping in asda or wherever always turns out to be a bad idea because i have to go to certain checkouts and put everything in MY order.
I have an easy time getting people to like me however i never really like people. May seem awful to say buy i kind of have an alter ego , i am funny , confident and crazy but inside i just want to get away form them. In my life i have made multiple groups of 'friends' but in reality i have 2 friends im in touch with when i feel like talking and 1 who due to her partner hasnt spoke to me in years. I loved her so dearly that i still try to find her.

If i find something i like i get obsessed, i know stay awake all night reading because i got obsessed with an author.

As disgusting as it sounds im 20 and i still need care from my mother, she doesnt have to bathe me but she has to remind me to bathe, eat and things like that. I cant cook alone really.

I get bouts of depression that are awful but at times i am not so bad.

I dont really know what else to add. I dont always say things that are inappropriate but I do have times when i will start a conversation that everyone wants to avoid, yet i see no problem whatsoever.

Any Opinions? If there is any information that you would like to know that could help with a better opinion then please message me

Perhaps you need to see a professional about the bouts of depression?

I have been part of group councelling but it was useless for me, im waiting for one to one at the moment but nothing really seems to helping.

Thank you for the reply by the way


I need the confidence to go see someone about possible aspergers i guess is the main thing.

If you can draw confidence from groups of people, even faceless online people, I'm going to have to doubt you have Aspergers.

Just sayin'

This sort of thing of thing can be difficult to tell, especially online. I think you should go ahead and ask. Doctors are doctors to try to help people. Plus I disagree with XFilesGeek that appreciating the support of others means that you are not an aspie. At least most of us feel social desire and want to be accepted just like anyone else.

Hello , Thank you.

When i want confidence i mean like you saying i doubt you have it, that makes me think okay prehaps i will not go.

Whereas if more people with experience say you should go see a doctor then i will feel like i can do it and i should.


Thank you for your replies.

I can never understand why people wouldn't put things on the checkout in a certain way. It has to be like that so they come through and get packed in the right order, Also why is it so bad to tell people who put things in the wrong order that they got it wrong. If they say they are trying to help, then they have to do it right, as its not helpful if you have to change it all again after.

Also to make people like me after I got to about 12 or 13 years old I learnt different scripts on how to behave because I got sick of always being bullied. I can switch on that script when I am with that group for a while and it goes ok but after too long I can't keep up so have to leave. It makes them like me or maybe just not be mean but I don't ever really make friends. I dont actually tell my feelings to anyone in real life because I never made a good friend like that because I don't ever be myself in front of anyone. Also I have different scripts in different groups so I can never let those people meet me together e.g family and college students and school parents all have to stay separate because I wouldn't know which script to follow.

I'm sorry I forgot the point of what I was going to say to you but you can ask me any questions you want to if you like.

Am i to assume you have aspergers?

I know exactly what you mean with the shopping.
I had 3 different group of people i used to spend time with when i was around 15 and none of them could see me at the same time because i was different.

Do the things I have written in my first post sound like I may have aspergers to you?

Thank you Dorfin for replying.