Do people ever consider you shy?

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I saw many persons on this forum claiming that people consider them shy. Actually, I can't relate to that. People soon understand I'm not shy. They first time they see me, maybe when I'm far from the crowd, they think I'm shy, it's true. But they soon understand I'm not when I start talking a lot about my interests, or when they see that I'm "brutally honest" and I say things to people's face, or for many other reasons. What about you?

Actually, I'm quite outgoing for a very high functioning autistic.

I'm usually seen as shy initially because I will hold back not knowing how to approach a group or individual. But once I start talking I usually can't stop. : / and people are usually confused by me because of this. And if I can't hold bak from talking far too much, then they don't want to get to kno me or anything. It was usually better for me to just fake shyness and go w that.

I can completely relate to Kairi96 and LizNY's answers, and I hated being labeled as "shy" so much that I would overtly try to prove myself as an outgoing person, which would eventually result in people distancing themselves from me or talking about me behind my back. I've quickly learned to accept the "shy" label and keep it all to myself. Plus, it's more fun being mysterious anyway!

'Shy' is one of a number of NT interpretations of my social disposition, yes.

I've had it a lot, but I think it's true so it doesn't really bother me. I know I'm quiet and introverted, and don't really like getting involved with the "fun" stuff.

I'm not confident or outgoing in groups - or even one on one - (I don't really understand how to be and I find socialising exhausting) so I don't mind if people think I'm "shy".

Yes. It doesn't bother me.

Yesi am very shy and have been called as such.

Once that I remember. My problem is saying what's on my mind and only after the fact realizing I shouldn't have said it. I'm usually called less pleasant things than shy. I've been trying to fix this but have had limited success. I'm thinking if people thought of me as shy it would be an improvement. Kinda depressing really when you consider shy a step up.

I've been called shy all my life. Not as much in recent years, but when I was young, I was VERY shy around people I didn't see every day.

Disregard. (double post)

Yes... very often. Even though I have the confidence to speak to people, the long pauses, stuttering, quietness and slowed speech looks like painful shyness.... or drunk or high...

People often tend to assume that I'm "painfully" shy (and also unintelligent), even people who have known me for a while. I'm introverted but not as shy as they think. My processing is just too slow to keep up in most interactions so I don't bother.

Yeah, I've been labelled as shy too. While it can take me a while to "warm up" to people or to new situations, I'm also very quiet around people I know well. This is mostly because I just don't know what to say in casual conversation. I've been told I come across as rude sometimes as a result.

I'm not really all that shy, I just lack the ability to spontaneously interact with people so I dont that much. Since I'm female and young looking its commonly mistaken for shyness.

Very shy towards strangers - and the most annoying thing is that my voice drops down, almost to whisper level when talking to strangers. And I also feel a compulsion to cough after saying a full sentence (almost as if something is stuck in my throat).

But once I get used to people, they usually say I'm outgoing and funny. All it takes is some time