what to do?!

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hi guys im in a bit of a situation and not sure what to do so would like some opinions.
ill start it from the start I went for a night out with friend to a area ive never been to so was just out for a laugh and to get drunk etc this was about 2months ago.
basicly i met this girl danced with her and i kissed her quite quickly by the sounds of it. this isnt like me normally i think it was down to alchol and the testosterone cycle im on also i had been watching and reading alot of dating advice.
anyway i asked her number and handed her my phone as i had to go meet my friends and a different club. i text her after a while in the other place as it wasnt really my kinda place. anyway she came home with me that night but she was on her period so didnt have sex but did other things haha spent most of the sunday with her as my dad was useing the car we seemed to get on quite well and i could tell she was interested dropped her of home on sunday eve.
we have met up and she had come to mine and we had a few nights out etc things are going quite well shes 22 im 21 and shes pretty much my type! we get on have a simaler sence on humor and enjoy being together, the sex is also verry good! oh and ive met her family and friends etc
but now the interesting part she is moving to a place about 1hr 20mins away for work she says she doesnt want a long didtance relationship again as she had one and it didnt work out but that was a 5yr relationship!
anyway kinda stuck on what to do my head tells me i should tell her ill buy a car and see her quite often with maybe the idea of moving down there when she gets her own house if it works out.
she has been saying she would still like to see me as a booty call lol she even asked me if id still see her if i had a new gf.
but i dont know if id be able to find another girl im a bit crap at it. dunno what i should do i dont really have any friends that have a sensible opinion to give haha.
im also sure it would be hard to find a girl like her too so im unsure on what to do! help me guys if you can understand my rambleing!

From the information you have provided, it sounds like she is mostly interested in the physical side of things with you, and doesn't want to pursue anything more serious (which may or may not be because she is moving away).

"She's just not that into you" would be my conclusion from what you have said, but it's hard to tell without all the info. When she says she doesn't want a LDR, does she say it with regret, and say other things like "it would be great if you were moving there too" or similar? Or does she just leave it at "I don't want...". If the latter, I'd forget it and move on.

P.S. She wants to sleep with you even if you have a new girlfriend? Sounds dodgy.

I agree with YellowTamarin. Sounds like it is mostly physical. She also seems rather possessive in suggesting you continue to see her, even if you had a new girlfriend. That's just wrong.

Of course she may be bluffing, NT's have a way of saying things, and meaning something entirely different. So, trying to guess what she really means is hard for me. But going by what she is saying and taking it literally, she wants you for sex when needed and it's you who has to think if that is enough or not.

i would kinda agree that it is more physical thing as i dont seem to have feelings for her tbh even though i think i could eventually.
i think it more is the fact that shes moveing away but some of the things she says contradict other things she says.
she has said she would be my girlfriend once because apparently i asked her when i was drunk and she said she didnt want ldr because she didnt think she could do it again and that itd f**k up.
ive been thinking about it itd be quite possible if i changed to a gym im my town id save enough money and id be able to see her as much as i do now but i dunno i kinda like keeping at sex but im not sure i could keep my feelings out of it.
i also agree it is weird that she would still want me if i had a gf! she said she would like to be that girl that wreaks things which to me sounds odd! bet she wouldnt want me if she had a bf!
quite tempted to just leave it at sex and see what happens if all goes wrong ill just be back where i started! atleast i can learn things from her about nt's!