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16 Jan 2013, 3:03 am

I don't know why, but I sometimes can't help but smile sometimes in bad situations. It's not that I'm happy that something bad takes place, but my face just shows a smile. My mom would comment on how I showed a smirk sometimes when she was upset with me, which made her more upset. My theory is that I will sometimes just find there to be something amusing, even in bad situations.



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16 Jan 2013, 3:09 am

I've always had trouble with facial expressions, especially controlling them. When I think I'm smiling, people tell me I look like I'm going to kill someone... I apparently glare a lot :/ even when I'm happy.


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16 Jan 2013, 3:36 am

I think this happens to me too because of comments I have gotten from people. I have been accused of laughing when I wasn't and people going "I'm serious." I have seen myself smiling in videos and not even be aware of it. I don't think it causes me too many problems so I don't see it much of an impairment for me. More like a quirk. It's an impairment if I give a darn and get upset over being misunderstood and if people were getting pissed at me over my facial expressions. I also swear I have a smile on my face when someone is having a serious talk with me. But nothing bad happens for it. I have even looked sad when I wasn't.


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16 Jan 2013, 6:30 am

my son does that. I know he can't help it. My husband doesn't understand and he gets upset. It's just my son's natural facial expression. He's had a smiley face since he was a baby. He's so cute. I call him my ray of sunshine. Now that I see your post, I am going to worry about his interactions with others outside the home. He's 11 and in his first year of middle school



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16 Jan 2013, 6:37 am

Same here.
I smile in bad situations, but I can't help it, because most of the times it's an unvoluntary thing. I remember this summer my mother getting her leg hurt, and I unvoluntarily smiles, and that made her angry with me. But also the opposite can happen to me: someone may say me an happy thing, or happy news, and though I really am happy, my face could just look emotion-less, or even sad. Though this happens more rarely. Most of the times I smile in bad situations.



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16 Jan 2013, 10:22 am

I noticed I smile or will even let out a little chuckle when it’s not really appropriate. I think it’s because I am not sure how I should act and I get nervous. I have on occasion, when I am really nervous said things that were meant to be funny but were deemed as being inappropriate. I don’t mean to be insensitive I just don’t know how to react to certain situations. On the other hand sometimes I have been accused of showing no emotions. Damned if I do dammed if I don’t.


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16 Jan 2013, 10:48 am

I'm not sure it's considered inappropriate (I mean, the only person who's bothered by it is me) but I smile when I think something is really annoying and/or frustrating. Not sure why I do it. Can't help it.



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16 Jan 2013, 12:52 pm

I don't even know what my facial expressions are expressing most of the time. All I know is I must be having wrong expressions on my face. People often seem to get a wrong idea about how I'm feeling because of that.

I have a colleague who laughs in a rather nervous-like way even when there's nothing funny. Others think he is weird because of that. I do find it strange, but my guess is he's just trying to cover his nervousness by doing that.



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16 Jan 2013, 8:52 pm

I am very good at inappropriate smiles. :D :D :D



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16 Jan 2013, 8:57 pm

I smile a lot, sometimes inappropriate, sometimes for no reason when I am alone. Sometimes, my mother walks into my room and finds me smiling for no reason, and I don't know that I am smiling.



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16 Jan 2013, 9:07 pm

FishStickNick wrote:
I don't know why, but I sometimes can't help but smile sometimes in bad situations. It's not that I'm happy that something bad takes place, but my face just shows a smile. My mom would comment on how I showed a smirk sometimes when she was upset with me, which made her more upset. My theory is that I will sometimes just find there to be something amusing, even in bad situations.


I do this frequently as well. I find that when somebody is exhibiting very strong emotions (anger and sadness in particular), my own senses become overwhelmed and for whatever reason, the end result is a very unfortunate grin. Perhaps it has something to do with the Alexithymia that is so famously comorbid with Autism Spectrum Disorders, as I do not know of any neurotypicals who have such a reaction.

None the less, I suppose it is nice to find that this sort of embarrassment afflicts others as well! I used to consider myself some kind of maniac for smiling at the misfortunes of others, even if inadvertently :oops:.


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