tried to work, and it didn't work out........ again!

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well i don't know if i should keep trying to work, or just give up i had a job for a couple of weeks, trying to get off the disability support pension but i was told after a couple of weeks that i don't fit in with their culture or satisfy their standards, i could feel that i wasn't wanted after a couple of days, so i worked as hard as i could, and was achiveing more work than my peers in the same position, most of the guys were welcoming and understanding, they were told about my disability before i started but for some reason the boss just wouldnt give me a fair go, do i keep trying? or do i just accept my lot and sit at home? 6 months ago i would have said keep going, but every time i fall over, it's getting harder and harder to pick myself up and of all places to be rejected by, this was a christian church, and my pay was 90% subsidized, they just didn't want me there, not even for 10% of the price of a normal worker.

Wow, that's nasty of them
If it were me, I would probably keep trying, if my determination was strong enough. It would be dependent on the situation. Since you said you want to get off the disability support pension, I would probably keep trying.
Good luck to you, and boo on them. At least you had some support.

thankyou for your kind words, i will probably keep trying, the more i think about i will probably try again it was a secondhand store run by the church, the pastor is a wonderful man and it warmed my heart the way he treated me, but the man running the store is his son and he is not very christian at all... it's like he is just following his dad for an easy way through life, but even with how nice the pastor is i doubt he would be interested in hearing a complaint about his son, i guess i will just keep looking, maybe the next place will be different, thankyou again for your support.

Hi, I've learnt the hard way when it comes to taking on the wrong jobs and have landed pretty hard at the end of it. They were almost deliberate attempts, before I knew about Aspergers, to throw myself into the gauntlet as a way to conquer my weaknesses and develop people skills, but in effect it was just going against the grain of who I am and always ended badly. I'm talking about behind the bar, in the kitchen, driving cabs, sales, IT technician, etc... Plenty of times I had good intentions, but couldn't take on the responsibility, didn't have the personality, got used as a pawn or stood on someone's toes etc. Some are made for the job, for me it was mostly torture. I'd say I'm in a similar situation as you these days, trying accept myself and work myself up to things again after some huge letdowns. Fact is, you can't be what certain people want, or who you think you should be at all times, so let it go. Life is abundant, it will offer you choices if you're looking for them, has for me. Hopefully you'll take this as another opportunity to gravitate towards some work that's gonna compliment you as a person. It might take a massive detour but maybe that's your path in life? You can't just give up, anyone will tell you that! The person you were when you failed might become unrecognisable in future. You said you're on the DSP? Is Aspergers recognised as a disability now? Interesting.

Best of luck.

thanks mate i will get back to you tomorrow im not in the right frame of mind to write a proper reply tonight