What aspect of AS is most limiting for you?

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If you want to choose more than one, you can expand in a post, because it's not possible to tick two choices.

The non-verbal communication differences, and all that go with them. People are generally wired to exclude those who they can't communicate with, and Aspies miss 60-80 percent of in-person communication due to the non-verbal communication differences.

Seeing the world one way while many of the people around me seem to see it differently. Runs me into inevitable problems.

My family isn't bad because, well, we're all pretty nerdy outcasts, hehe. But I've run into problems in my department in which my mentor and dissertation committee members, as well as administration within the department, seem to view things differently. There have been endless communication problems of which I've borne the brunt.

Dare I call those people mediocre? Sometimes I feel like they offer me ill-placed pragmatism. --I'm all for pragmatism (I thrive on it), but sometimes I think they're just trying to break my spirit and make me conform rather than work with the abilities I naturally have.

They're in-the-box people and I despise boxes. And I've definitely suffered for it.

EDIT: With the above comment, I don't really miss as much nonverbal communication. I just don't care, lol.

Executive functioning all the way. I've recently realized that I'm horrible with it, and it has only been a few months since I've began to develop strategies to improve it.

I put "sensory" because sensority issues cause me the biggest troubles.
After that, anger issues come, but it's probably not related to AS, so I'll ignore it.
I can put "executive functions" immediately after that, for what concers self-help skills. I've had self-help skills delay. I learned to use a fork when I was 5, I learned to cut my food when I was 8, I learned to dress myself when I was 9, and I learned to tie my shoe laces when I was 14.
Also, I learned to walk later than other children, and I also prefeared crawling to walking as a child, so I often went around the house or the school crawling, not walking.

For me, it's relating to other people that's the main one. My sensory issues are next-to-non-existent, and my executive functioning appears to be all right, even though I'm very clumsy.

But relating to other people, communicating, empathising, getting along with the crowd, small talk, that's still very difficult for me, and I've arrived at a point where I limit my social interaction outside of work. At work, I limit it to the professional level, and I don't really join my co-workers on the breaks anymore (we can kinda sorta choose our own breaks, and we can certainly choose where we sit [there are several stories in the building, and only one floor has a canteen]). So yeah, this is still a problem for me.

I voted sensory.

I am a social dunce, but I am too social dunce to care about social, so social is not my biggest autism problem.

my general anxiety and ocd bother me, and i used to have social phobias, and that caused me problems. i wanted desperately to learn self defense and finally did, but used to be afraid to learn because i dont always understand instructions and have horrible motor skills. what a shame. i wanted it so badly, and once started did very well.
my stomach aches affect my life very badly and my insomnia. my inability to communicate i wouldnt mind so much if it didnt bother me to some extent with my brother and nieces, who are the most important people in the world to me.

I would have clicked more than one choice as there are a couple that are limiting for me. The most limiting i think is the one i clicked,
the executive functions. I am thankful to have my gf who lives with me and for my mother who helped us move and get our house; she wanted me to have a quality of life good.

Social anxiety and picking up on cues

Um, how much time I spend alone, the fact I have no interpersonal relationships and don't care For the fleeting moments that my perspective shifts It doesn't seem normal but It feels normal. The sense of detachment and not being able to relate.

Being able to relate to people has been a life long problem.

I haven't had a sensory problem for about 3 years now. And I'm doing much better talking to people, but I still kinda suck with that, and self-care, I do that every day it kinda helps if you pretty much raise yourself.

Almost all three of those in equal measure. Executive Functioning is slightly worse than Social Functioning, Sensory though bad, I don't suffer with it at the same levels of the other two.

clearly Sensory and then executive functioning and last but not least social stuff.

I learned the social stuff pretty well, the other stuff not.

Inability to handle being around people and I have little time to spend on things other than my interest; equally impairing.

So, social and repetitive behaviors (the two main points of AS, ironically).