How can I make friends in a new state?

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I recently wrote a topic explaining that I had moved out of home for the first time to a rental property that is located two states away from all of my friends and family. On the other post I was requesting info about moving out and living on my own specifically and so I decided to make another post asking for advice meeting other people and making new local friends.

There are three key problems that I have uncovered in regard to my friend making ideas;

1) I have no hobbies that I can try to exploit to try to meet people.

2) Being in a fairly regional area there a limited amount of people/groups to consider and even less info about how to
find these groups.

3) I really don’t know if I truly want friends or I simply want to be able to say I have them.

Please let me know your thoughts on the above scenario and/or on the idea of making friends in a place where you don’t know anyone.

I love hearing other people’s stories so if you have a tale that relates to the above please share it.

Thanks,
Mr Backward

1. Workmates - happy hours etc.
2. Church (if you believe in God)
3. Meetup.com (hikes, bikes, coffee, movies, anything you can think of)
4. Volunteer (you'll likely meet a lot of women, whether that's a plus or not)
5. If you run - Local running clubs
6. If you scramble - Local scrambling clubs
etc.

I don't have any valuable lesson-teaching stories about meeting people.

Church is actually a good place to meet people even if you're not a believer.

A hobby could be anything you do regularly in your spare time - including walking watching tv. You could certainly find people who do those things.

Have you considered trying to start a hobby? Anything you think is interesting or fun can be made into a hobby.

Take lessons in something.

Attend lectures or public events (the local Audubon may offer nature walks; you could try a knitting circle or car repair clinic, book club).

Do you ever get lonely? When you're doing your daily activities do you wish there were someone else there with you? Then you may have a genuine desire for friends. If you don't really want or need them, don't feel like you have to have them.

Remember, no matter where you live, nowadays you can make friends (of a sort) online, too.

I hope I've been helpful

There are some interesting suggestions on here

Cozysweater- I had never considered volunteering, i will look into this one. My workmates are on average twice my age and I dont drink these are not the type of frieds I am after. I am too regional for meetup.com, there is nothing within a cars distance from me. Local clubs is one that I have considered but I cant find anything in the area much less what id want to join.

Petals021- You raise a good point, perhaps I shouldn't worry myself trying to meet people. Perhaps I am board and am just trying to fill that gap with people. I think that I think so much that when I think about thinking about this stuff my head hurts and I end up back at the start o_O I think that I will have to think about what type of hobby intrests me.

To all- I want to know more about church as a way to make friends. My understanding is that you stand, sit and sing your way through an hour then leave. Where's the friend making component?
Has anyone actually made friends this way? How? How did it turn out?

At church, if it is a morning service, there is usually a tea time afterwards, where people mingle. It also depends on the type of church and what the church used to be before. The churches I used to go to, were usually buildings that served a different purpose before it became it a church. They might have a kitchen area, that could serve more than just tea. Sometimes people doing a fundraiser. What I found is people tend to talk about their work, be it farming or office work. They might be asking for help. Nobody should be making you do anything. It all comes down to choice.