As they are strangers I have no way of knowing what the baseline for normal behavior is for them, and what could be due to anxiousness/quirks/RLS/stims/drugs/normalness/lying ? Got 3/6.
The "Behavioural Insights" part after the test was a little terrifying - listed both moving ones feet (bad news for stimmy or fidgety folks) AND keeping still (bad news for stimmy or fidgety folks trying to suppress that) as a sign of lying, but then one of the women telling the truth was very rigid (but was described as "relaxed") so what is considered honest NT body movement? Both a rhetorical question and a sincere one. Also, things like qualifiers and not enough I statements or a lot of them and "convincing" are all things that are normal under different circumstances - if someone is unsure or just are that way or humble or confident or been socialized as a woman or using nerd voice - it's not just about earnest or lying. Horrible that what they think of as "is worried" equates "is lying"? Surely that's situation dependant.
http://www.thedirtynormal.com/2010/07/27/feminism-the-nerd-voice-and-david-mitchell/ wrote:
"The nerd voice. Ms Vowell defines being a nerd as “going too far and caring too much about a subject.” The “nerd voice” is the apology that accompanies an assertion of deep understanding and detailed knowledge. It’s a wildly confident declamation plus a self-deprecatory shot at your own knowledge and opinions, thus knocking the feet out from under the would-be hater.
I rejected the nerd voice when I was young because I’m a girl and got socialized to say things like, “This might sound stupid but…” or “…but maybe that’s a dumb question” or “I could be wrong but…” At some point during my adolescence I rejected that kind of “good girl” apologizing because I DIDN’T think I was stupid, dumb, or wrong; I thought I was smart, interesting, and right. Why should I apologize just because my intelligence and knowledge make you feel bad? That’s your problem, I thought as a bumptious adolescent.
I’ve since been working on learning the nerd voice. I know that my life would be better if I could master it, because the function of the nerd voice is to make people comfortable with your knowledge, let them know that you know that it’s silly to know so much about something, that you don’t think you’re better than they are just because you know stuff and enjoy knowing stuff."
(I'm sleep-deprived so I don't have much energy for grammar or being un-ranty, not directed at anyone special. carry on?)