Being more comfortable around girls

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No matter what I always feel more comfortable around girls. I don't know why though. I have close friends who are male but I'm more at ease if I'm with a group of girls. I wonder if this is because I just think they're pretty or if I see girls as more comforting and kind. Does any other guy or girl have this "issue"?

I had a distant father and a warm mom, three sisters and no brothers. it was quite natural for me to be more comfortable with females.

Father passed away when I was 5, I don't play sports, I don't watch sports, I know nothing about cars, I hate talking about women like pieces of meat... so, yea, I feel more comfortable with women too.

Yes. In the ideal case, she's lesbian, because that removes the awkwardness.

I agree. I would rather be around women than other men. I view them as being superior to men morally. Men rape, pillage, and fight. Women gossip. Which one of those kills more people.

I would phrase the above a little differently but I agree with the point made. Males are more responsible for and insensitive to suffering, females are more nurturing. There is a sort of alpha mindset that runs through most males to a certain extent that I just don't get.

For me it doesn't seem to have a gender basis, its just about how their personality makes me feel. Most people, male or female, I'm not really comfortable with/not interested in talking to but occasionally there is a diamond in the sand which is a person (who can be of either gender) who I just instantly feel OK with and am happy to talk to, one on one (in short bursts ) Apart from one person who is my SPECIAL INTEREST lol sometimes who.. I just.. can't get enough of.. that person is almost always a male.
Actually having thought about this since writing it , I'd go as far as to say women in general make me a bit more uncomfortable cos they seem to have more complex social rules like stuff with how you look , judging you on more superficial stuff, ermmm dunno that kind of thing but maybe I just know the wrong kind of women?

I interact with girls and guys on the basis on their personality, manners, and hygiene. I avoid people that rudely fart all the time just to be funny (one idiot in high school did this), or are addicted to drugs and booze, and cause trouble all the time. However, I am rotating in 2 all-girls labs in my biomedical science PhD program, and have felt very comfortable socializing with them. They are all very sincere, sociable and helpful.

I have exactly the same attitude towards women and men outside of pure physical attraction to other males. I interact with both in pretty much exactly the same way and have little concept of gender and its roles outside of what I've been outright told, and quite frankly I see little purpose in that. I view each person as an individual and gender plays no real part in it.

The idea that females are automatically more pleasant is fairly common as far as I know, although a lot of men prefer to interact with their own gender. I guess on some subconscious level, they're still in the 'girls have cooties' stage of development, or maybe they just don't want their ideas on sex to be heard by the objects of their attraction.

You talk about your "ideas of sex" with your friends? I find it uncomfortable when a related topic comes up.

Age is certainly important. In kindergarten, I was mostly among girls. (I'm using the term "among" because I don't think I had any friends back then.) That stopped at the age of 7, and it's been the case again since the age of 17.
During puberty, having friends of the opposite gender is rather unlikely, I think.

Only for the purpose of joking or educating them on something that they're most likely not knowledgeable about. I've often heard people talking about breasts, vaginas, etc. and how much they totally get laid every 5 minutes by every girl they meet. It's just 'macho' banter, I'd think. That sort of thing wouldn't endear them to the opposite sex, I'd imagine.

Oh, that kind of talk...
I'm happy that my friends don't do that. I think it's mostly a puberty issue. But there are guys older than 20 who still talk like this, and I hate it.

i was very much like that in childhood, but as i grew up, gender was no longer a determining factor in comfort.

I'm a guy and most of my closer friends are girls as I'm most comfortable talking to people who are caring and understanding. When I'm with other guys we're often doing some kind of activity rather than doing a lot of talking.

i know what you mean. i have 2 sisters and no bothers, and im closer to my mom than my dad. i guess its because i view girls as safer than men. guys tend to be territorial and hostile, and if you're not the "alpha male" you get underminded and treated like a scrub. most of my friends on fb are girls and most of the people i text are girls. girls are more nuturing, forgiving and accepting of imperfections. guys on the other hand make fun of everything and point everything out. thats why i may have 4 guys that i consider my "boys" in a social setting and 10+ girls as friends...because i get along with girls better im constantly viewed as a friend and the girls dont wanna date me. i dont have that "edge" that my boys' have but i feel like i have to be like them in order to obtain that, which is what i dont want...

now, is a paradox because women are damn near impossible to please. its easier for a woman to please a man than the other way around simply because we dont know what women want and women want us to guess and automatically know everything. the beauty of having guy friends is that they tell you whats on their mind and waste emotional rollercoaster rides like women do. that way the issue is "squashed" and over with. but the thought of a dude getting in my face yelling at me or getting ready to swing at me freaks me out, esp since im already awkward and self-conscience. the worst women do is hurt your feelings...

Honestly, I tend to gravitate initially towards a group of guys because I play sports and that provides a surface level connection with other teenage guys, as well as video game providing initial conversation. but i usually only really connect with girls, they seem to be much more accepting of my quirks and inability to read their social ques. I do think however that it has more to do that i act as kind of a pseudo therapist if that makes sense, usually I am more willing to listen to their problems than any one else.