How do YOU define Romance?

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I appreciate I may be asking a difficult question here. It's just there is a stereotypical view on romance out there, and it usually involves a man spending a lot of money on a woman (or maybe even vice versa, but I'm sticking to the stereotypical here). Buying her nice expensive gifts, flowers etc. How many uphold with this view that it is romantic to splash out on a meal, buy an expensive bit of jewellery or whatever and buy flowers and roll around in the hay afterwards?

I think a bit differently to this. I believe romance is through personal expression, whatever that might be. Romance is knowing what your partner likes or may appreciate and playing on that in a good way. You will soon find this makes your partner happier than a bunch of flowers that will only die in a couple of weeks anyway.

As an example, for Valentine's Day I am thinking of writing my boyfriend a poem as I know he would appreciate that. I know not everyone can do poetry but what I am trying to say here is that behind romance goes a lot of thought. We are likely going to go out for a meal too, but then we will both go 50/50 on it as we both want the meal. We share everything. This is just my view.

Any thoughts?

I am also writing this thread to see if anyone has any other possible romantic suggestions.....

Whenever I think of romance, I think of kissing and sex.

Too much television for me....

Romance is giving flowers, notes, glances of sexual interest, smiles, warm touching, and cuddling. It's making someone smile when they aren't, offering your help because you like being with them and knowing they feel the same way. It's smelling them because you like their scent, washing their hair because it's enjoyable together. It's spending time alone doing nothing just so you can say you did, and it's a new insight each day into the other person you never really know but hope someday you will.

When I read the topic title, I started thinking in a different direction.

To romanticize: to see a person, place, thing, situation, or idea in idealistic terms.

the most beautiful woman in the world
the sunniest beaches
sexy sports car
cool job
a wonderful adventure

It's almost impossible for me to describe in words. It's more of a feeling, some images.

Romance is not about how much or how little, if you personally made it or bought it, its the thought that counts backed up by showing how much you love the person your with.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romantic_love


Single red rose and a card note telling her where the next one is, so on up to 12 roses, at the end it will be in a candle, light or if the moons out in full, and a romantic picnic, and not giving away romantic tips of the other stuff… that will happen..

Poetry is romantic. Roses are romantic. Dinner at a lovely restaurant is romantic.

Romance, to me, is caring and being considerate to the person and going to a bit of extra effort.

That may mean different things to different people. For some, they may loathe or be allergic to flowers, or hate poetry. They may like a walk in the park better or a trip to a museum, who knows.

Knowing what that IS that trips your mate's trigger, is romantic.

Especially if they know it's something you would not normally be doing (not something you object to though) and you are making an effort just for them. (Example: They love dressing up and going to a restaurant; they know you find it dull but not dull enough to hate it. So they would know that effort is for them.)

Want a romantic idea? Gift coupon books.

You make it yourself (you can find some that are ready made too but I can't tell you where, I dont know).

Cut a sheet of regular typing paper into squares probably a couple inches wide by 3 inches tall (but you can vary that). They should all be about the same size.

Write on each one, "Coupon good for: 1 hug" or whatever. This may vary according to your mate's tastes and dislikes, it could be baking cookies, or something more risque. The content of each coupon is up to you, but be sure it's something you have no problem honoring. You can make a little cartoon illustrating each coupon too, on the coupons if you wish. Make two squares to be the cover and back cover of the coupon book.

Either staple the tops together, or, punch holes and thread a ribbon through the holes and tie the ribbon.

Costs next to nothing and should result in a happy mate.

Romance-a privilege we all must earn in order to make our love lives work correctly.

Romance is a give and take feeling. For Romance to happen both parties need to be willing to give it a shot and evenly divide the responsibilities. For me it is more about respect and commitment as opposed to hot kinky sex (which in all honesty I wouldn't mind ) and spending lots of money.

Infact I think it is a real display of true romance when a guy (or girl) does something that doesn't really cost any money at all. Words, a picture, an adventure can all take the place of that $50 gift you decided to get someone and it will probably last longer too. I will never make the mistake again of paying out of every orface to try and make a romance work.

However, romance is different for all. This is but one insight

emotion, love, sincerity, bond, a few others.

Just want to say one thing "if she is allergic to flowers be pritty un-romantic to give her a real floor than a paper one you made yourself...


IF IF IF IF, Only IF I could find where I put my poem , If someone gave me a coupon I would burn them coz its like someone giving you a gift certificate lol, I need this coupon just to get a hug damn you damn you only IF ( Pole strip dance good for 2 hours ) now that is something you would not normaly do... (Let you sit down for the day and ill do all the work).

I guess I'm not romantic...I don't care about flowers, a dinner out, jewelry, cards, poetry, or notes.

I guess I received too many gifts based on guilt instead of love over the years to last me a lifetime.

Romance to me is a thought...a simple gift while you where away that says you missed having me around...even if you only paid .25 for it from a vending machine, or you made it from toothpicks on your lunch break.

Spending time with me sharing things together because you want to...not because you feel you have to. Making me laugh when I'm down...huddling under a blanket together on a cold starry night...or a walk in the rain.

I always had a rather cynical view on romance. To me, it's something you must do in order to get sex, and the odds are not 100%. As Fiz pointed out, I always have this vision of a dozen red roses, an outrageously expensive meal, and something else that costs God-knows-how-much. In the end, I'd be hearing: "Thank you, honey, for the wonderful evening, but I'm very tired".

That's how I define romance.

Romance, to me, doesnt include sex. It may lead to it, but doesnt necessarily revolve around it. I was romantic with a girl I had no chance of getting (she was already in a relationship).

Having said that, I think Romance is simply 'love' at the 'mind' level. Body feels love around the 'heart' area but I think Romance is intellectual

Being totally at ease with someone and being able to tell them anything and everything (which normally means that, in fact, you don't really need to).

Shared contentment is the most romantic feeling of all.