What have people said to you that made you suspect AS?

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People have always said the strangest things to me, and more recently I realized that I probably have AS which would explain the weird statements.

Things like:

"Keep your voice down."

"You're speaking too quietly. Speak up."

"Your face is always so... 'flat'."

"You hate everything."

"Your opinion doesn't count, it's different than everyone else's."

and more recently...

"You're like Abed from Community."

Anyone ever get told stuff like this?

"Your opinion doesn't count, it's different than everyone else's."

Now there is someone who's opinion is not worth listening to. What a stupid thing to say.

Truth be told, that's pretty much exactly what they said. Usually in combination with "You hate everything." which isn't true, it's just that I say what's on my mind and what I actually think instead of saying "everything is amazifyingly awesome!".

Nothing really because I didn't even know I had it and then by the time I knew, I was informed I had it and I didn't even know what it was then.

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 Rain Man

Counselor: "My wife's son is autistic, have you considered if you are?"

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everything else was just confirmation.

"you walk funny" (only one person ever said that to me, but maybe others think it and don't say anything), "do you own a hairbrush?" (LOL), "You're a better person when you smoke pot" (less social anxiety, etc), "you take everything literally" "why are you so quiet?"

probably other stuff too, i can't recall.

My mom: "Yeah, they could have labeled you with [AS], but I took you out of that school before they did it. It's just a fad and you're too smart to have it."

*sigh* Mom, you meant well, but you sure caused a lot of trouble for me.

Statements like:

"Stop being pedantic."

"Stop walking heavily on the floor."

"Turn the kitchen/bathroom light off."

"Control your tone of voice."

"You're being paranoid."

"You're from outer-space."

"You're like Basil Fawlty."

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Alexithymia Questionnaire Score: 166/185
Ritvo Autism Asperger Diagnostic Scale-Revised (RAADS-R): 231/240
Aspie score: 186 out of 200
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Real life?

"You speak too quietly"

"You take things too literally"

"You timetable your activities?"

"Do you have Asperger's?"

"You're socially ret*d"

"I've never met anyone so socially awkward"

"You're like a meercat"

"You have ninja responses to noises"

"You remind me of my cat"

"You're a psychopath"

"You really would make a good librarian"

"Your friend had Asperger's. That's probably why you got along with him - you're weird like that"

"You're probably on the autistic spectrum"

Just to name a few. There are more, believe me. I've also been questioned about it on the internet. Like, directly been asked if I've ever thought I could have autism. Does get me thinking.

Oh, I've been compared to Amy and Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory before as well. I guess I see where they're coming from and I take it as a compliment They're both successful and intelligent.. how could that be a bad thing?

"Aspie!" (with a smile)
"Stop! You´re rambling!"
"That was a JOKE!" (grinning)
"You sound like a professor. Please translate"
"Aren´t you taking things a bit literary?" (surprised)

Yes to most of these, but if I criticise anyone, I am just rude.

After doing research on autism, I remembered all these comments I've been told my whole life that really hurt but made me realize I have it...

You're always in your own world
You're so quiet
You're so shy
You're so stupid, you're such a ditz
You should be a librarian
You have book smarts but no common sense
You are like Rainman's wife
You are so weird
You think in black & white
You're so regimented

unless maybe I am just stupid, not autistic. I'm probably too stupid to know the difference lol..

Well ,when I told 2 different new friends at different times in my life that I had been diagnosed with Asperger's (and explained that that was like a high functioning form of autism) but didn't think I really had it, they both agreed with me in the moment and said something like "Yeah, you're definitely not autistic. Look you social you're being now" and one said "western society just labels people too much". Anyway ,after getting together with friend 1 about 3 times I was speaking to her and making gestures with my hands. She laughs and says, "you're talking with your hands" and mimics exaggerated hand movements. This girl was friends with my younger sister as well. I say "yeah, everyone in my family talks with their hands" and she says, "yeah ,but not like that....your sister doesn't talk like that (mimics my gesture). Those are weird movements. Are you sure you're not actually autistic? Do you think maybe you are?". The second girl who also originally agreed that I was misdiagnosed: When I was over at her house and talking to her , I was staring at my own reflection in the backyard window instead of looking at her. She laughs and says '"*my name*, you're obsessed with your reflection. Hey, maybe you really are autistic".

Also, I've been told:

-I have weird facial expressions
-I make weird claw things with my hands and make fists when I'm angry, which is funny
-I have a creepy smile (fake smile) and eyes (googly eyes when trying to make eye contact)
-I have an awkward gait "I can tell that awkward gait from a mile away" - my old friend's jerky brother and "run, forest, run"-bullies at school
- " You're the most uncoordinated person I've ever seen in my life" - a high school gym teacher -not kidding!
- I was asked if I was British and told I sounded British once and once told that I had a sing-songy voice and asked where I was from.
- "Saying "This is she" and "I am well" in response to "Is *my name* at home?" and "How are you?", respectively, sounds too pedantic.'- my mum
-I need to learn to compromise- my ex
-I'm really rigid - my ex
-'You can't always wear the same thing"- my ex
- "The way you said "no" was very abrupt and you hurt *name of his sister's feelings"-my ex
- I'm immature, childish
-I'm disorganized , absent minded, spacey
- I'm rude, disrespectful, blunt
- I give too much information in conversations - my mum
- I go on and on -my mum
- I'm very argumentative and stubborn - my mum
- I'm too rigid - my mum
-I'm SO picky, I'm spoiled (about food) - my mum
- I have to learn to take others' needs into consideration (my counsellor)
- don't see the whole picture/black and white thinking -counsellor

Okay, enough, I could go on and on here. Also, my report cards in elementary school said how I was constantly twirling my fingers in front of my eyes and always in my own world, how I had problems with my peers, had no friends, was "teased" (bullied mercilessly ,more like) and got angry when routines were changed.

"You're always off someplace else in your head when I talk to you."
"Seriously, could you stop repeating that song all the time?"
"I've never met anyone who's that inflexible before."
"You don't really look people in the eyes."
"You're always on or off. Never in the middle."
"Why are you so quiet?"
"You talk a lot about things that interest you but other than that you're pretty withdrawn, did you know that?"
"You have to communicate your thoughts and emotions!"
"Why don't you show appreciation?"
"You never smile in photos."
"I was sarcastic."

Etc.

"You're like an alien from outer-space."
"You're the quietest person I've ever met."
"What's that weird thing you're doing with your hands?"
"You mumble. You need to talk louder."
"Why can't you look people in the eyes?"
"Are you an aspie?"
"You get so obsessed with things."
"You're weird."