Anything can be "used" as an insult even "Nice hat".
Sometimes it's fear, "Spaztic, Spaz, Spaz!!"
Sometimes it's envy, "Hey, Rich Kid!"
Sometimes it's brusque empathy, "Are you deaf?"
. . .
The most important thing is to consider the source. Do you truly value their opinion?
Would you buy a car based solely on what they say?
Yeah this sounds like a lame "adult thing", and oh, do I get it!
But everyone that manages to not die too soon eventually hears so many opinions that you have to just start lumping them into categories, just to get anything else done in life.
. . .
They say that "Opinions are like A**Holes, everybody's got one"
but I disagree, I think "Opinions are like sweat glands, everybody's got thousands and poor mental hygiene will make them start to stink very soon."
Not quite the same snap, but then that's the basic difference between AS and NT: Tedious Over Accuracy v. OMG! SpArKLeS!! !! !!
. . .
What if an Autistic person asked, "Are you Autistic?"
What if their communication 'tinted' it wrong?
It might appear weird or insulting just because they have poor social skills.
What if they were truly 'reaching out' to other people.
What if I reacted badly. Ouch =(
. . .
I agree that often gamers can be quite young -teens & preteens- and when they grow up they're likely to feel horrified at some of the things they said and did.
I was.
But that's what kids do, it's part of the -whatever you want to call it- of growing up.
We all start off doing stupid things, like pooping our diapers -in public, eventually most of us stop that and move on to other stupid things. We're often judging our past by our present, by what we know now. (that's not fair, btw)
Don't sweat the small stuff, even it it doesn't feel small. (try to pretend it is)
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