Unsure of how to act towards his blatant rudeness.

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I'm a neurotypical as far as I can tell. My mother is convinced I have HFA but right now I couldn't care less. I'm just a little bit socially off and stuff but my friend calls me a idiot / moron / social ret*d every time I do something incorrectly. I mean, I've asked him if he makes fun of his other friends and he says, "No, just you." He's my only friend and is nice at times so I don't exactly want to lose him as someone to talk to / play online games with and stuff but sometimes I block him on chat just so I don't have to listen to his insults. Just now he linked me a Facebook post that someone posted saying that they were on a bus and heard a girl say that her asthma medication made her obese. Her friend said, "Are you taking cheeseburgers as your medication?" He said, "Isn't that hilarious?" I told him it wasn't really funny. He called me an idiot and said, "How do you not get the joke?" I explained that I get it just fine but didn't find it amusing at all. He called me an idiot again and said that since I'm home schooled my humor is screwed up. I told him homeschooling is unrelated and that not finding a joke funny doesn't make me an idiot. He insulted me again so I blocked him in chat. Then about 15 minutes later I unblocked and replied, " Look, if you have a problem with a slight difference between me and you then you're pretty mean and intollerant. What's your problem?" I got no reply but I know his repetitive insulting will go on and I'm not sure how to make him stop. Sometimes I am convinced that I'm an idiot after he says it enough. He just pisses me off with some of the stuff he says at times and makes me want to yell at him, I never do. I just brush his insults off but my mom got pretty mad when I casually mentioned his insults. That kind of woke me up and made me want to make him stop. I'm just really mad right now- unsure of what to do. I know an NT posting here might be strange but I assume you guys can relate... I guess this is just a rant in retrospect. I'm just looking for advice on how to deal with this guy, I like him, he's cool usually. His insults just get on my nerves though.

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Yes, both straight males. He's good at winning arguments, he's "always" right. Very difficult to beat him in an argument if he's actually right or wrong. I suppose I should be serious with him and try to sort it all out. Thanks.

Been there, done that. You need to be straight up with him about it and tell him that you find his crap to be annoying and flat out douchebaggey. If he's your friend he will ask why and you can tell him. If not then he's better off left behind cause that's all youll get from him.

Also, Im assuming you are male, guys expect other guys to bust on them right back. Since you aren't he's not understanding whats going on.

I've had friends like these. In my experience it usually doesn't stop until you stick up for yourself.