so shy around girls

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i find it so hard to talk to girls and dont know what to talk to them about

Listen to what they talk about with other people.

just talk about stuff

if it works, cool

if it doesn't, life goes on

Try a wingman until your more comfortable talking to them.

they like to talk about "fun" stuff like holidays... and... well i don't actually know what else. but holidays is probably a safe topic.

They are easy to talk to! Approaching them can be tough and inappropriate at times tho. Just talk about whatever they want to talk about.. Usually themselves.

A good icebreaker can often ease the tension of talking to women in my experience. After that, just introduce yourself, and go from there.

Before even attempt talking, listen first. And I agree with Erlonman, breaking the ice is key. Do it poorly or you'll end up like me.

Cheers for the advice I just ask usual things such as "how was your weekend" "exams" "getting drunk " etc

I am confused.
You find it hard to talk to girls because you are shy or because you don't know what to say?
Shyness and axiety go away the more expirence you get. I was lucky to have many female friends which destoryed much of my shyness.

That won't get you laid and do you seriously think she cares to talk about her daily routine which she probably doesn't even enjoy?
Talk about emotional topics. Anything that gets her emotions going (happy, excited, fearful) so long as she is feeling that because of you. She will associate good feelings with talking to you.

Yeah you and about half of the male population: NT and "aspie" alike. Welcome to the club! I have been a card-toting member for about 18 years!

Honestly most of this stuff is just advice other people have given me and it has allowed me to at least talk to women. I have not really done it enough to see that many results. But I at least get 10% interest from women when I try the following things. That is only the first step though because you could lose their interest at any time for hundreds of different reasons. Nothing is ever guaranteed. Some girls will continue to ignore you no matter what you do.

What others tell me: Just be yourself. Seriously. Whatever you are: be that! nerdy, intelligent, friendly, funny, interesting or whatever you feel you are as a person. Also try talking to them online or something it is a way to learn and you have more time to think about what you want to say. I mean just introduce yourself and ask a few questions and just talk about casual stuff no intensely emotional stuff otherwise they will get creeped out. Do not listen to anyone who says to ask about emotional things in the first five minutes. This is a huge mistake. Talk about their interests because from my experience they like to talk about themselves and mostly a lot of random casual stuff at first.

Honestly some women you talk to will like you no matter what you do. Do not try too hard. But the more you talk to the more chance you will run into someone who is into you. This idea that "if you do this, any women will want you" is bullcrap. Every girl or woman is an individual and they all have different likes and dislikes.

Also, the idea of men using women for their own gain is not an enduring trait. It is a sign of the times and how people think sex is a commodity to be bought out of a vending machine. Women are people and should not be used as a man's personal "toy". Basically going up and hitting on random women is not good. So I hope you are trying to learn how to treat them like a person. Not saying you are doing any of the above things. I just thought I would bring it up since many people who want to talk to girls think they need to be some casanova so they can get as many women as possible. It is actually a sick game that some guys play and they need to grow up.

Talk about life. What things do you think keep them busy? Talk about those things.
Talk about things you have in common, that's always a good 'entrance' for a conversation

good luck!

Have you tried talking to any of us girls on this sit? Your welcome to talk to me if you'd like. I'm easy to talk to.

If it makes you feel any better, I'm 28, and have always been insanely shy around women. I feel like I've little to offer and am not attractive enough. Can't get over that feeling no matter what anybody tells me, and I put good amounts of effort into looking good. Though I feel like maybe the video-game tshirts and jeans all the time might do me in a bit, I just can't be comfortable wearing anything else!

I've found most women will casually talk to you, don't be afraid, just talk to anybody. Eventually it'll build your confidence up, do what I've been doing. Carry around a pack of gun, I use the desert line from Extra because the flavors are interesting and provide topical conversation! "Have you ever had apple pie gum before? I just got some today would you like a piece?" I've been trying that and find it usually breaks the ice damn well

Once you have approached someone you can talk about:

You can talk about:

Hobbies,

Work,

Something you saw on the news and is fairly interesting to everyone( for example:2 months ago they changed the smallest note through most of europe and it looks like something out of monopoly now, I explained this to someone that didnt have time to listen to the news and showed her said new note, she was very interested)

Something that is coming up(holidays, big event on the city...)


Those are fairly safe topics for everyone imo

Unfortunately, most girls are mainstream and will attempt to flirt with you. 97% of the girls I know at school are probably very promiscuous. You have been warned!