&!+@# admin assistant

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Ok, so DH & I have decided to buy a house (we're paying almost $1,000/month to RENT!) and we can get a $90K home with my VA loan @ just 4.625%! !! Our mortgage payments should be at least $300/month LESS than the rent.

So, we're in the mortgage brokers office last week & his admin assistant is at her desk-shoved in a corner of his office. We're going along filling out forms & I'm happy. Who wouldn't be?

All of the sudden from the corner the biotchy admin assistant says (& I'm basing that characterization TOTALLY on what she said next) "Wow, just a little bit hyper, aren't we?"

I was FLABBERGASTED! I didn't *think* I was having any kind of an Aspie moment. Once we were in the car on the way home I asked DH if I was acting over-board & he said no.

WTH? The more I think on this, the more it's bothering me! In this economy ANYONE walking in to a bank to buy a house should be treated with the utmost respect (or at least, to my thinking they should be!) This woman knows NOTHING about me & I (almost) wish I had told her that it must've been my Autism slipping!! !!

In a close 2nd to what's bothering me (besides what biotchy admin ass't said) is the fact that my DH just let it happen....just let it go on by & NOT called her on it.

Part of me was like: wow-that almost sounds like SHE has Aspergers! But then I realized my own personal Aspie outbursts were NEVER to drive a knife into someone elses back & that is what she was doing...and ONCE AGAIN, my own DH didn't bother to even say a word.

You should call or write to the manager of the office and explain what you experienced. Ask for the matter to be looked into as you felt you were not being treated in a respectable manner as the valued client you are.

Some people are like that and there is nothing you can do about it.
Sometimes it's better to just let things go; you don't want to be obsessing about this getting all worked up, and have in effect the way you go about your business for the next few weeks, whilst the individual who upset you just goes on like nothing happened.
By all means make a complaint, and talk to DH about it, but perhaps the better option is to discuss it at length with DH, and let them make the complaint.
That way you can see that DH is on your side, that they're going in to bat for you, and that the issue will be resolved or at least acknowledged without you getting flustered and potentially going into meltdown.
That's what I'd do, and not too dissimilar to what I do when I have similar problems.
Getting yourself upset will only lead to a vicious cycle that will lead to anxiety and depression, and you don't want to give unpleasant people that mistreat and disrespect you the power to do that to you.

I can't imagine why someone would be a bit happy or (dare I say!) excited over buying a new home AND saving 300 bucks a month.

There's a few ways to look at this:
There are other brokers in the sea.
You coulda broker nose.
You could think/say "no duh, we get to buy a home!"
If we expect people to put up with our apparent rudeness maybe we should put up with theirs regardless if their major malfunction is like ours.
or Nayner Nayner! We getta new house and you only have a suckky job and no boyfriend!
etcetera


BTW "100% REPLACEMENT COVERAGE" is hugely different than "Basic Coverage" (A) Dwelling=$75,000.
For instance what if your house becomes worth $200,000 and gets hit by a small asteroid.



(disclaimer: yes I know that once it enters the atmosphere it's called a meteor, I like just asteroid better =)

Wow, another rude person that sounds like she is jealous or something. By the way, what does DH mean? I keep thinking designated hitter?

I'd have to know the TONE of how she said it to gauge how she intended it.

As the "&!+@# admin assistant," I've had my share of outbursts that made me look bad.

I had a similar problem last week, I can't work out if it my interpretation of other people is way off as common things don't seem to upset them the way they do me. The lady in the bank last week told me a cheque with no name I forgot to look at before handing over was the most dangerous thing she had ever seen in her life. I still seeth inside when a cashier tell me I have handed over £10 when I clearly looked at i before hand. All these things I'm told are normal.

I would certainly not have taken that comment with humour at all.

I have an ulterior motive for posting, what does DH mean? I see this often, my first thoughts are Dolls House. I'm about 99.99% sure you don't mean that.