Signs that someone is losing interest in you

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Hi:
I was just wondering what cues you can pick up on when someone gives you a hint when they seem to be losing interest in you? This was even though they expressed interest in wanting to be with you in the past?

I'm sorry but I cannot pick up cues like that. Many times in the past I have had people I know and who liked me suddenly not want to know me. I have been dumped after a few weeks of someone being all over me. I am always left wondering what happened.

I'm not so good with subtlety, but I would suggest try something like not calling them.
If they haven't called you in a week, they are not as interested in you as you would like them to be.
You could then call them and ask why they didn't call, and whether they are interested in you.
As I said I'm not one for subtlety, so it may even be best to skip all the game playing and just ask them outright; "are you interested in me, do you want to hang out, or am I misreading the signals you are sending?"
No need to mention why you feel confused, but just seek clarification.
All you can do is be honest, communicate to the best of your ability; which may mean texting, emailing, or messaging if you have difficulty with verbal communication - I know I often do - so at least you can make sure your message is clear.
If it's all guess work, subtle cues, and hard to understand, it may mean they're not as interested in you as you are in them, especially if you raise your concerns with them and nothing changes.
I can't give you all the answers, but I can tell you that I am married have been for 6 years, and my marriage works because I constantly communicate with my wife, phoning, emailing and texting her every day, often even an hour after she has left home, or an hour before she leaves work.
The only way to maintain good relationships is with communication, and if there is no communication there is no relationship.

they stop responding to your communications or they stop communicating.

1. He stops calling, texting, emailing, or otherwise trying to communicate with you.

2. He avoids making any plans with you, relying on vague, noncommittal excuses instead.

3. He stands you up after you and he have made specific plans for a date.

4. He is not as affectionate with you as he used to be.

5. He doesn't even try to initiate sex with you.

6. He doesn't notice any changes you make in yourself (ie, Hair, clothes, weight, et cetera).

7. He acts defensive - over-reacting to simple questions - and even accuses you of attacking him.

8. He seems reluctant to share any personal information with you.

9. He nit-picks your behavior - your words, your actions, your decisions, et cetera, - as if trying to pick a fight.

10. He seems completely oblivious to - and totally unconcerned with - your feelings.

Yes, but that's not the only reason someone may do that. For example, I'm in the process of doing that with someone I like too much - cutting off communication because I'm too interested. It's good to be reminded of how this will likely be perceived.

So you can loose interest in someone because for unhealthy reasons? I had no idea that it could go both ways.

They ignore you as if you didn't exist

Well for me it's healthy and innocent; I just like someone too much who's unattainable, and it's better for me to cut off communication so that I'm not too heartbroken about it. Maybe we'll be friends again later, but for now I'm just giving the impression that I've lost interest, and as I get on with life and meet other people, I am losing interest.

Since the same "sign" can have different possible explanations, as in my example, it's important to look for several clear signs which indicate the same thing - that way you're less likely to be mistaken.

I suppose in the end, it doesn't matter why somebody loses interest in another, just that they do.

Is this loss of interest when you date someone or do you mean in general even regarding friendships?

Sometimes for me I can become confused when someone loses interest when dating and/or even whether or not someone is interested in me in the first place. Cues are not always easy to pick up and I may think that one guy is interested and he is not and stop calling after one date. Then another guy I am not sure if he is interested and he does call after our date.

Most of the time I can tell if someone is interested and they do call after our date. Dating is a game and similar to a job interview (the first date or so).

Yes, once it's over. If it's possible to pick up the signs of reduced interest before they've decided to end it, (such as noticing a bad habit then correcting oneself), sometimes perhaps it can be avoided.

but if the communication wasn't there in the first place, there can be no hope. it takes two to communicate, and all too often only one does the communicating.

alas! a lost cause all too frequent.

Actually, I am talking about when a friend starts loosing interest in you which always baffles me. Yet, I am wondering if there are early red flags in the that go off before all the mind games go into place.

when you find you actually have nothing in common.