Attraction

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This post was inspired by the recent one that asked, "Has this statement....lost of truth...?

That post got me thinking about a man's (or a woman's) standards, and deal-breakers, in the looks dept.
I could never date or continue to see a woman whom I don't find attractive.
Is every guy not like this? Or?
It seems to me that if there's no physical attraction, there's no romance, and there's no real relationship.

If you're not excited (in some way, or in every way) by a woman, would you still pursue her, just so as not to be alone?

I don't mean for this to sound like I have high standards, or a lot of women to choose from. I don't!

Johnnie

Physical attraction always has at least some relation to attraction on intellectual or philosophical bases. Everyone wants a certain combination, even if they aren't willing to admit to it...

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I'd say if you haven't got a single slight physical thing in you that can be considered to be even a bit attractive to the other gender, then sorry yo, but forget about it.

You can opt for prostitutes or escorts but you know I've read some stories on the net about people even being rejected massively by those too and trust me, that stings, deeply and a lot of those people being rejected were also still virgins, so that stings double to triple as hard.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but ugliness isn't sadly enough.

Attraction is only as visual as those affected by it. There exist exceptions to any of these rules when people simply remove some of the variables.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

In my experience, when you fall head over heels for someone, they are attractive. Even if someone mentions a negative trait (physical or otherwise), you cannot help but see it as beautiful

Its like Shakespeare said in Sonnet 148

O me! what eyes hath Love put in my head,
Which have no correspondence with true sight;
Or, if they have, where is my judgment fled,
That censures falsely what they see aright?

If I'm in love with someone, they're going to look good because of that.

Off course I have to be physically attracted to someone to date that person.
That doesn't mean I only date male models, not at all. But I couldn't be intimate with someone that I don't consider physically attractive.

not gonna lie, i'd prefer the person to be very good-looking, but it's far from a first requirement.
actually, looks are more of a "tie-breaker" then anything else, for me.

of course, there are some physical aspects that are deal-breakers, but aside from that i dont mind all that much

I picked the 1st option. I want someone who has similar traits as I do. I also want someone who is kind, easy to get along with, and patient with my differences. I'm not saying looks don't matter at all. I prefer to have a physical attraction to the person i'm dating. I woudn't want to date someone who I would consider ugly.

The biggest deal breaker for me would be a girl who is obese. Having some fat is okay though, in fact I prefer girls with some fat. Being too skinny is also somewhat unattractive. If you're obese, that's unattractive. Most guys would agree. Luckily, weight can be changed and not only will you lose some weight, you will also become more healthy, feel better about yourself, and be able to run a mile without stopping.

Also many women think they're too fat when in reality they're ok. As long as you're not obese, you're ok.


sorry if I offended anyone.

For me, there has to be at least some element of physical attraction, but it's the emotional attraction that really captures my attention. I would much prefer an average or slightly below average looking person who shared a ton of things in common with me, than a supermodel who's breadth of worldy knowledge comes exclusively from Entertainment Tonight and TMZ.

*I* have to be physically attracted to them.

A technically good looking person is not necessarily an attractive person in my eyes. Not at all.