Professional Relationships/Networking

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I plan on starting school again for a degree in Computer Networking. I've attended college before, but I stopped going for a variety of issues (depression, social ineptitude, fear. . .). Now that I am starting over again at a new school I want to know how I would begin to have professional relationships with my professors and classmates.
I make an initial good impression, but as time goes on I grate on people's nerves. I don't want that to happen. So what are your ideas on how to behave? What things should I focus on? What have you experienced that NTs cherish in these relationships? Everyone's input is valuable. Everyone's contribution no matter how seemingly minute or silly is welcome. I really am socially stupid.

Thanks in advance for your assistance.

I got a degree in Comp Sci. I sort of ran into the same problem in college with most people. I kept none of the relationships past moving out of state for my post-college job. But while in college and before my move, I ended up with two professors and one fellow student as part of my network. One of the professors shared an interest in the same RPG, Battletech so we were able to hit it off with common ground. In fact for a networking class, we setup a network to play megamek and everyone played. The other professor ran the network at the college and for my capstone, and intern job before I graduated, I was the student technician on the network for evenings nights and thus built a working relationship because we were both there together. We didn't have any common ground other than our career choice of IT/computers, but he was a nice guy. And the fellow student, both him and I had similar interests in gaming, and shared the same religion so we had common ground there. For everyone else, we never connected, or if we did, it didn't last long.

I don't know what about you grates on others nerves, but it helps if you have common interests, it might overcome. That's the method that seemed most successful with me. Basically I think that 2 out of 3 times it was the reason behind it. The third, we just ended up working together and neither of us were dicks about anything.

Do you know why your presence grates on their perception?